Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Oh Darlin - What makes a best friend

Barbara Thomas Davis - AKA Bobbi Davis is how I knew her.

I miss her.

I never had to worry about her judging me, nor did I judge her.  We were straight-forward with each other.  She never looked at my hair or nails and told me I should go to the salon.  Bobbi understood that I worked hard, and did what I could in the time I had.  Although she did not work full time, she never threw it in my face that I had to work on Presidents Day.  She got me.

I worshiped her confidence and talent.  Deep down, she was different than anyone I met. She was afraid, and then she wasn't.  My husband adored her. She was real. She had her demons like the rest of us, but didn't have to run a person down to make herself feel better.

We never really had a falling out. Lives just went different directions.  I had two jobs, and I was drinking whenever I wasn't working.  I was a mess, and my hermit life began. I shut everyone out, and drank most nights alone, at home, till I passed out.

I didn't even know she died.

If you thought my drinking was bad before, I finished double after I heard the news.  I reached out to Dean, her ex-husband.. and it was wonderful. We talked on the phone, and online, and we both just lived on the her good memories.

Tyler, her son posted a picture of himself and his momma. I couldn't look for a second without crying.

I have only been sober for just over a year, by my own choice, and I am beginning to feel, once again.

I can miss her every day, and remember what I once had.  A best friend.. whom I didn't judge, and whom didn't judge me.

Every other friend I have had before or since hasn't been the same.

I cherish her in my heart.. today and forever.

I tried to make a dedication Facebook page for her, but can't get past the first few minutes. I will try again soon.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.


  1. Take all she gave you and carry it with you..your memories of her are the legacy...

  2. Well that's great! Goodluck and stay strong, I admire your friendship it was an inspiration to all people out there. Thanks!