Saturday, August 29, 2009

Reaching for Mutual Respect

Do you respect your partner? I find that one or both partners believe themselves to be truly better than their partner.

Not just better at certain tasks or skills; but better as a whole person.

This is what leads to the idea that if only one's partner could be "fixed" then the partnership would be happy and successful.

The trouble is most people aren't broken.

Life was working before we allied with our partner and will continue to work even if they are gone. We are with our partner because it enhances our life, makes us even more functional and hopefully happier. Not to say that everyone can't improve in certain skill areas.

Respecting our partner has to be built on the recognition that they are fully functional and remarkably capable people. You partner may not be as good as you are at organization, or baseball, or cooking, or gardening or whatever. But, guess what? You aren't as good as they are at many things. Which of you is better? The only answer in a successful partnership is neither!

Partnership can never be about whom is better. Partnership is about recognizing each party's strengths and about recognizing our own weaknesses. Notice that in the weakness area your task is to recognize your own weaknesses without a primary focus on your partner's. That is their job. As you each recognize your weak areas this can be a point of discussion and understanding (perhaps a place for active listening) so you know how and when to cover for each other.

When you can begin to recognize and accept your weaker areas then you've started the process of accepting help. You can hardly ask for assistance if you don't know where you need it.

Help without permission is a violation of your partner. Permission can only be granted if your partner has the option to refuse the help. On occasion a partner may want to struggle a little longer or get their ideas or skills more organized before they are ready for further input. Mutual respect includes the ability to wait.

The journey for partners is to advance the team through mutual growth, success and respect.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Article excerpts taken from; The Answer is Mutual Respect by David W. Edgerly, Ph.D. Copyright 1998; All rights reserved.

Photo by Rosie Hardy - Another Step on the Ladder

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Thursday, August 20, 2009

A Butterfly Loves

My eyes open upon a beautiful day;
Full of hope, memories and desire.
You are in my arms holding my soul.
Enticing me into the fire;
And for moments so true, I am whole.

I love you with a passion; I knew not I owned.
With each minute that drifts;

I love thee as a butterfly loves.

The wind beneath its wings;
as the sunshine owns the day.

Together we belong,
within each others love.

My soul seeks,
with eyes ever seeing.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Photo by Samidoodle, Bring On The Butterfly Effect

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Saturday, August 15, 2009

Wings of Courage

The wings of courage and enthusiasm enable one to fly forward.

While moving forward we sometimes find ourselves in a position where there seems to be no progress.

We don't seem to understand the reason for this and we find success eluding us.

We try different methods for success but if we look within we find that either we have no courage or no enthusiasm, which prevents us from giving our best to the task.

We need to have both the wings of courage and enthusiasm in order to succeed. If there is no courage we give up trying. On the other hand, if there is no enthusiasm we get tired and tiredness never lets us work towards success.

So before we take up any task we should make sure we fill both these wings with such power that we will be able to work constantly till we succeed.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

Photo by Jennea Denner please visit see more of Jennea's fine work. © All rights reserved!! Please do not use this image on websites, blogs or other media. Do not duplicate in any form without my explicit permission

To Jennea Denner: Thank you Jennea for allowing me to use your brilliant photography for my site. I appreciate your kindness, and allowing me to post your gift that captures such beauty!

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Thursday, August 6, 2009

Ignite the light

In the darkness of ignorance, comes a light… a spark… a powerful spark… that ignites the light of all the souls.

This is the time of the birth of a new power, the time for transformation, the time for offering one’s own weaknesses and finishing them so that what remains is only that which is new, beautiful and powerful. It is time for bringing light into the time when there is darkness.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

Photo by Rosie Hardy - Watching Stars Without You

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