Wednesday, March 4, 2009

The Energy of an Embrace

Article posted first, then my blog to follow.

Taken from the Daily Om
March 4, 2009

The Energy of an Embrace

(And my hesitance in being a follower of the norm)


and you, and me.

The need to touch and be touched is established early in our lives, as we develop and grow in the omnipresent embrace of our mother’s womb. Once we are born, separated from that sanctuary of connectivity, we begin to crave the physical embrace of our parents. As we age, we become more independent. Yet during times of triumph or trouble and during those moments when we are in need of reassurance, we can’t help but long for a hug.

Because a hug requires two active participants, each individual taking part in the embrace experiences the pleasure of being embraced and the joy that comes from hugging someone. As both individuals wrap their arms around one another, their energy blends together, and they experience a tangible feeling of togetherness that lingers long after physical contact has been broken. A heart hug is when you put your left arm over someone’s shoulder and your right arm around their waist. As they do the same to you, your hearts become aligned with one another other and loving, comforting energy flows between the two of you to flood your souls with feelings of love, caring, and compassion.

A hug is a pleasurable way to share your feelings with someone who is important to you. Depending on your relationship with the other person and the kind of message you wish to send to them, a hug can communicate love, friendship, romance, congratulations, support, greeting, and any other sentiment you wish to convey. A hug communicates to others that you are there for them in a positive way. In an instant, a hug can reestablish a bond between long lost friends and comfort those in pain. The next time you hug someone, focus all of your energy into the embrace. You will create a profound connection that infuses your feelings and sentiments into a single beautiful gesture.

Kimmy’s take…

I agree that the need to be touched is established early in our lives.

I was loved and hugged like a normal loved child with two parents. I had a large loving family. Every hug was appropriate, and just.

Somewhere around my teen years, I noticed something. I noticed my family and my
parent’s adult friends doing something that irritated the ever-being out of me. THEY GOSSIPPED! They trashed talked! They took bets on how long a couple would be together. And then once the person came over, everyone hugged and kissed like nothing was just said. I was, and still am disgusted with that concept. How can a human being speak so poorly about someone they claim to LOVE, or a friend they claim to trust, and yet “hug” like nothing was wrong?

I grew up after that, not having trust issues, but choosing whom I trust wisely. I might be about Kimmy Sharing Light, but if I have something to say, I BRING IT!

To the few that I love and trust, I appreciate and love a good hug.
But hugs to me truly mean something. And if you know me in person, and noticed I cringe when you hug me, that probably means that I know who you “really” are.

Sharing light from the hip!


  1. Kimmie, I understand what you're saying. My immediate family was never the talk behind your back type of people, but my husband's family is. Not him, of course, but his parents, and some extended family. I'm still not used to it. To me, it feels so fake. Just say it to my face if you've got a problem.

  2. Okay.. my topic has brought a lot of IM's and emails debating the "personal space" issue.

    Here is one more take.

    * Public space – This area begins about twelve feet away and goes out to about twenty-five feet, sometimes even more. It is the domain of public interactions such as taking a stroll through the mall, walking down the street, or passing other people in the grocery store.
    * Social space – This area begins about four feet away and goes out to about twelve feet away from you. It is the domain of interactions such as meeting someone new, greeting a familiar acquaintance, or generally interacting with someone who is not particularly well known to you.
    * Personal space – This area begins about eighteen inches away and goes out to about four feet away from you. It is the domain of interactions with people you know well, such as those whom you know relatively well and your good personal friends. Personal space is also sometimes referenced as your ‘bubble’ or ‘personal bubble’, and is the space that varies the most based on culture.
    * Intimate space – This area begins at your body and goes out to about eighteen inches away from you. It is the domain of your most intimate interactions with people, typically a small handful of people with whom you have the closest relationships. This includes kissing, hugs, whispers and close conversation, and intimate types of touch.


    Hugs to me are intimate space...not to be given because the other person has a need to get in someone's intimate space.

    I like to be somewhere between Social space, and personal space.

    If people have a craving to be in someone's intimate space, instead of a public, or social space.. then it's THEM that has the problem being the INVADERS..not me.

  3. huggy people are space invaders

  4. Hi Kimmy,
    I agree with you about people being untrue with eachother, In the end they are really the people who lose out on having true light and love in their lives and will never feel the real connection of a true hug.
    Love and Light,
    Janet :)