When People Show You Who They Are, Believe Them
"When people show you who they are, believe them." - Maya Angelou
It seems simple, yes? Judge people by their behavior. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. Simple.
In my experience, people will continuously ignore evidence that they personally witness in order to preserve their illusions. Hell, I'm guilty of this myself - learning this lesson on a permanent basis has been one of the great challenges of my life.
Consider these examples:
- A woman is dating a man who is nice to her, but consistently treats service people like shit. The most likely cause? He's a dick. But the woman won't believe that - she'll make excuses.
- A man's mother consistently cuts him down and makes him feel small and worthless. The most likely cause? She's a critical harpy. But the man won't believe that - he'll make excuses.
- A man occasionally gets drunk and smacks his wife around, but is otherwise a "decent guy." The most likely cause? He's a wife-beater. But his wife won't believe that - she'll make excuses.
- A work-mate never seems able to perform their own work, and is constantly asking their co-workers to do their work, or help them because it's an emergency, or bail them out. The most likely cause? She's incompetent, or lazy, or both. But the co-worker doesn't believe that - he'll make excuses.
I know I have been posting less, and sharing light from others more. There is a reason for this. We all need to be recharged, as well as get opinions from others. I am the first person to tell you that a true master of light, will always be a student thirsting for more knowledge.
I found Janiece Murphy's site while looking for one of my favorite quotes.
People might doubt what you say, but will always believe what you do.
Even I can get fooled thinking that someone that I considered a close friend, wasn't who I thought they were.
Please enjoy Janiece's post, and give her site a visit too here!
Love, and plenty of light,
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