Wednesday, December 30, 2009

True friendships and an aerial view

These past few days had been a refreshing cleanse. We live, we learn, we grow.  You learn who your friends are in crisis, and who is your enemy. Morals, values, and even lies become hauntingly clear in all.

Friends push the other to strive to be a better person. Rick, my hubby reminded me of this fact last night. We went back to 1989, High School. He was already out of High School, and I wanted to drop out and hang with him all day. I was 17.

He took a look at me, told me I didn't have a choice, and he wouldn't have it. Then drove my dumb ass to school every day. At the time, I was trying to figure out why he didn't want me to hang with him all day. Looking back, ahem, 20 years later, I see a young person, who loved me, and wanted me to succeed, rather than fail. That's love.

I push my daughter way too hard. I wanted to raise her in a way that she didn't fall to the same mistakes. But by doing that, by the time she turned 18, she wanted freedom like a drug. I never even asked her what she wanted. I told her what she needed. I didn't allow for her to even have a say. That was wrong of me.

Being on the right path, is not about certainty, I learned. Cause and effect is more like it! We make choices, we start walking on a path, and it looks, feels, tastes right, or not. If you started a path, and it ends, or doesn't feel right, BACK UP! CHANGE DIRECTION.

There are angels in this world. I won't share her name yet, til I ask her permission. But without her, and many others, a path choice could have gone deadly wrong. And JMT grabbed everyone, and backed us out of the "No Outlet" road.  Cause sometimes, even we can't see the path end.  It's okay to take guidance from others. People on the outside have an aerial view of the path! And you never know if there is a bridge ahead, or not!

SO DARN HAPPY TODAY!

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Saturday, December 26, 2009

Daydream - Arthur Seymour John Tessimond


One day people will touch and talk perhaps easily,


And loving be natural as breathing and warm as sunlight,


And people will untie themselves, as string is unknotted,


Unfold and yawn and stretch and spread their fingers,


Unfurl, uncurl like seaweed returned to the sea,


And work will be simple and swift as a seagull flying,


And play will be casual and quiet as a seagull settling,


 And the clocks will stop, and no one will wonder or care or notice,


And people will smile without reason,


Even in winter, even in the rain.

Photo by Pino - Daydream


Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Sunday, December 20, 2009

I Have Longed to Move Away - Dylan Thomas

I have longed to move away
From the hissing of the spent lie
And the old terrors' continual cry
Growing more terrible as the day
Goes over the hill into the deep sea;
I have longed to move away
From the repetition of salutes,
For there are ghosts in the air
And ghostly echoes on paper,
And the thunder of calls and notes.

I have longed to move away but am afraid;


Some life, yet unspent, might explode
Out of the old lie burning on the ground,
And, crackling into the air, leave me half-blind.
Neither by night's ancient fear,
The parting of hat from hair,
Pursed lips at the receiver,
Shall I fall to death's feather.
By these I would not care to die,
Half convention and half lie.

Dylan Thomas

Dylan Marlais Thomas (27 October 1914 – 9 November 1953) was a Welsh poet and writer who wrote exclusively in English. In addition to poetry, he wrote short stories and scripts for film and radio, which he often performed himself.

His public readings, particularly in America, won him great acclaim; his sonorous voice with a subtle Welsh lilt became almost as famous as his works.

Thank you Charles, for your patience, and wonderful time that you have spent with me teaching me about the old world, and culture. I have met a new friend, and so happy about it!

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Social Solidarity - Humanity Healing team

“To recognize the social solidarity of the human family brings with it the responsibility to build on what makes us one.

This means promoting effectively and without exception the equal dignity of all as human beings endowed with certain fundamental and inalienable human rights.

This touches all aspects of our individual life, as well as our life in the family, in the community in which we live, an in the world.

Once we truly grasp that we are brothers and sisters in a common humanity, then we can shape our attitudes towards life in the light of the solidarity which makes us one. This is especially true in all that relates to the basic universal project: peace.”

John Paul II ‘Development and Solidarity: two keys to peace’.
Click here


"If you have come to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together."

~ Aboriginal activists group, Queensland, 1970s

Let us gather today in Solidarity with all creation and vibrate love towards everyone that is in need of Healing, peace and Hope.

Together we stand,
Humanity Healing team

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Saturday, December 19, 2009

Deep peace of the running wave to you


Deep peace of the flowing air to you.
 

Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.
 

Deep peace of the shining stars to you.
 

Deep peace of the infinite peace to you.

adapted from ancient Gaelic runes



Sharing light with Kimmy.


Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course;


leading to new outcomes.

Sunday, December 13, 2009

21 Wise Sayings

I have special dedications to people on my website later this week.

So I am going to be lazy, and post a wonderful email I received from MountainWings.




21 Wise Sayings.

1. The best way to get even is to forget...

2. Feed your faith and your doubts will starve to death.

3. God wants spiritual fruit, not religious nuts...

4. Some folks wear their halos much too tight...

5. Some marriages are made in heaven, but they ALL have to be
  maintained on earth...

6. Unless you can create the WHOLE universe in 5 days, then
  perhaps giving "advice" to God, isn't such a good idea.

7. Sorrow looks back, worry looks around, and faith looks up...

8. Standing in the middle of the road is dangerous.
  You will get knocked down by the traffic from both ways.

9. Words are windows to the heart.

10. A skeptic is a person who when he sees the handwriting on
    the wall, claims it's a forgery.

11. It isn't difficult to make a mountain out of a molehill,
    just add a little dirt.

12. A successful marriage isn't finding the right person-it's
    being the right person.

13. The mighty oak tree was once a little nut that held its
    ground.

14. Too many people offer God prayers with claw marks all over
    them.

15. The tongue must be heavy indeed, because so few people can't
    hold it.

16. To forgive is to set the prisoner free, and then discover
    the prisoner was you.

17. You have to wonder about humans, they think God is dead and
    Elvis is alive.

18. It's all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again.
    Just be sure to flush when you are done.

19. You'll notice that a turtle only makes progress when it
    sticks out its neck...

20. If the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, you
    can bet the water bill is higher.

21. And last but not least -- God gave the angels Wings, and He
    gave humans CHOCOLATE!!!!!

Keep smiling, and ...if you see someone's missing one....
give them one of yours!!

Received from www.MountainWings.com

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.





Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Just one thing

Changing one thing for the better is worth more than proving a thousand things are wrong.

Volunteer in your community this holiday season!

Click here to find your local United Way office.

Sharing light with Kimmy.

Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

http://www.liveunited.org/

Sunday, December 6, 2009

Simple Sunday Quote

Find a way to love yourself enough not to be treated poorly regardless of what you have seen and/or experienced.

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Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Spiritual journey begins when the worldly affairs take the backseat.

An angel, like a butterfly, knows it is a great privilege to fly, even if only for a moment.

Saturday, December 5, 2009

The Sun was still warm

"The sun was still warm, it hardly lit up the earth any more, however; just as a torch placed against the... only lights them up with a feeble light, so the sun, torch of the earth, was going out, letting a last feeble light escape from its body of fire, which nevertheless allowed the green leaves of the trees, the little fading flowers, and the enormous tops of the centuries-old pines, poplars, and okas to be seen.

The refreshing wind, that is to say a fresh breeze, moved the leaves of the trees with a rustling somewhat similar to that which the silvery waters of the brook made, flowing at my feet. The ferns bent their green heads before the wind. I fell asleep, not without refreshing myself with the water of the brook. I dreamt that... I was born in Rheims, in the year 1503.

II

At that time Rheims was a little town, or, to put it better, a borough, nevertheless famous for its beautiful cathedral, witness to the coronation of king Clovis...

To be continued...

Thanks M for Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Monday, November 30, 2009

All is interconnected

Pick up a flower in a field
and you may disturb a star in the sky.
All is interconnected.
Nothing is separate.
Everything has its place, its function.
Nothing is here for nothing.
Be aware.

Dharma

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Spiritual journey begins when the worldly affairs take the backseat.

An angel, like a butterfly, knows it is a great privilege to fly, even if only for a moment.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Being Angels to One Another

We can all be angels to one another. We can choose to obey the still small stirring within, the little whisper that says, "Go. Ask. teach out. 

Be an answer to someone's plea. You have a part to play...." 

The world will be a better place for it.

And wherever they are, the angels will dance.


Sharing light with by Dawna Markova.  

Love, Kimmy.  ミ✩ ƒ๏ℓℓ๏ω the ƸӜƷ

Three Dancing Angels. Photo by Joanie Anderson. 

Please visit Joanie's website, other work and photos here!


Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Friday, November 13, 2009

Spiritual Self Reflection

As your self-reflection grows deeper and deeper, the moment will surely come upon you when the spiritual flower will suddenly burst into bloom, illuminating the entire universe.

This is the moment when you can transform this vast earth into solid gold, and the great rivers into an ocean of milk.

What a satisfaction this is then to your daily life! Since this is so, do not waste your time with words or phrases, or by searching for Truth in books; for the Truth is not to be found there.

They consist of mere words, which will be of no use to you at the moment of your death.

Poem by Szu-hsin Wu-hsin,(1044-1115)  Buddhism, Mahayana, Zen (Chan)

Photo by Michael 'Mick' McFarland.  Thank you Michael for allowing me to share your beautiful photo.

Please visit Michael's other photos here!

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Live in Awareness


Open your heart and know that you are not your ever changing circumstances, but abiding stillness within chaos.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcome.

ミ✩ ƒ๏ℓℓ๏ω the ƸӜƷ.

Friday, November 6, 2009

Just Listen


When you accept as a simple fact that I feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I can stop trying to convince you and get about this business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. 

And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice. 

Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what's behind them.

Perhaps that's why prayer works, sometimes, for some people - because God is very quiet, 

God just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.
 

 So please listen, and just hear me.
 

And if you want to talk, wait a minute
 

and I will listen to you.




Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Just a quote today

I don't need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better. Plutarch.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Kimmy is paying attention to the moment

THERE IS NO TIME LIKE THE PRESENT

Mark Twain said, “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.”

These words hold great wisdom; the wisdom of knowing that there is no sense worrying about the past or fearing the future.

Your past will not change, and your future concerns may never come. No reason to be turning things over in your mind again and again. A little reflection is a good thing. Remember, how, exactly, does one live in the moment?

Surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself!

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Meditation is Non-doing - Osho

When people come to me and they ask, "How to meditate?" I tell them, "There is no need to ask how to meditate, just ask how to remain unoccupied.

Meditation happens spontaneously. Just ask how to remain unoccupied, that's all. That's the whole trick of meditation - how to remain unoccupied. Then you cannot do anything. The meditation will flower.

When you are not doing anything the energy moves towards the centre, it settles down towards the centre. When you are doing something the energy moves out. Doing is a way of moving out. Non-doing is a way of moving in. Occupation is an escape. You can read the Bible, you can make it an occupation. There is no difference between religious occupation and secular occupation: all occupations are occupations, and they help you to cling outside your being. They are excuses to remain outside.

Man is ignorant and blind, and he wants to remain ignorant and blind, because to come inwards looks like entering a chaos. And it is so; inside you have created a chaos. You have to encounter it and go through it. Courage is needed - courage to be oneself, and courage to move inwards.

I have not come across a greater courage than that - the courage to be meditative.

But people who are engaged outside - with worldly things or nonworldly things, but occupied all the same, they think ....and they have created a rumor around it, they have their own philosophers.

They say that if you are introvert you are somehow morbid, something is wrong with you. And they are in the majority. If you meditate, if you sit silently, they will joke about you: "What are you doing? - Gazing at your navel? What are you doing? - Opening the third eye? Where are you going? Are you morbid? Because what is there to do inside? There is nothing inside."

Inside doesn't exist for the majority of people, only the outside exists. And just the opposite is the case - only inside is real; outside is nothing but a dream. But they call introverts morbid, they call meditators morbid. In the West they think that the East is little morbid. What is the point of sitting alone and looking inwards? What are you going to get there? There is nothing

David Hume, one of the great British philosophers, tried once... because he was studying the Upanishads and they go on saying: Go in, go in, go in - that is their only message. So he tried it. He closed his eyes one day - a to.tally secular man, very logical, empirical, but not meditative at all - he closed his eyes and he said, "It is so boring! It is a boredom to look in. Thoughts move, sometimes a few emotions, and they go on racing in the mind, and you go on looking at them - what is the point of it? It is useless. It has no utility."

And this is the understanding of many people. Hume's standpoint is that of the majority: What are going to get inside? There is darkness, thoughts floating here and there. What will you do? What will come out of it? If Hume had waited a little longer - and that is difficult for such people - if he had been a little more patient, by and by thought disappear, emotions subside. But if it had happened to him he would have said, "That is even worse, because emptiness comes. At least first there were thoughts, something to be occupied with, to look at, to think about. Now even thoughts have disappeared; only emptiness....What to do with emptiness? It is absolutely useless."

But if he had waited a little more, then darkness also disappears. It is just like when you come from the hot sun and you enter your house: everything looks dark because your eyes need a little attunement. They are fixed on the hot sun outside; comparatively, your house looks dark. You cannot see, you feel as if it is night.

But you wait, you sit, you rest in a chair, and after few seconds the eyes get attuned. Now it is not dark, a little more light........

You rest for an hour, and everything is light, there is no darkness at all.

If Hume had waited a little longer, then darkness also disappears. Because you have lived in the hot sun outside for many lives your eyes have become fixed, they have lost flexibility. They need tuning. When one comes inside the house it takes a little while, a little time, a patience. Don't be in a hurry.

In haste nobody can come to know himself. It is a very very deep awaiting. Infinite patience is needed. By and by darkness disappears. There comes a light with no source there is no flame in it, no lamp is burning, no sun is there. A light, just like it is morning: the night has disappeared, and the sun has not risen.... Or in the evening - the twilight, when the sun has set and night has not yet descended. That's why Hindus call their prayer time sandhya. Sandhya means twilight, light without any source.

When you move inwards you will come to the light without any source. In that light, for the first time you start understanding yourself, who you are, because you are that light. You are that twilight, that sandhya, that pure clarity, that perception, where the observer and the observed disappear, and only the light remains.

Osho - from the book What is Meditation?

Photos and text © Osho International Foundation

Book not to miss, Meditation: The First and Last Freedom, by Osho.
 
Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Ego Trick or Treat


When you think you are different from the others, better than the others, they are just tricks your ego is playing on you, beware!

You are just what you are, nothing different, nothing better, a simple sparkle in the fire of life.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Saturday, October 24, 2009

Disappear Inwards

Just witness your mind
and the meditation will be happening.

And once you have got in tune with your being,
you know the way, you know the how.

Then it does not matter where you are.

Alone or in the crowd, in the silences of the forest
or in the noises of a marketplace, it is all the same.

You can simply close your eyes
and disappear inwards.




Sharing light with Osho. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Photo by ThyMournia - Help Me Disappear

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Sons of Anarchy - Ryan Douglas Hurst


My Wednesday blog is about Ryan Douglas Hurst's Character Opie, on Sons of Anarchy on FX Networks.

You might have seen Ryan on his breakout performance starring opposite Denzel Washington in Disney's mega-hit Remember the Titans, for which he also directed the film's second unit footage. Additional high-profile feature film roles include Steven Spielberg's Saving Private Ryan, the Coen Brothers' The Ladykillers with Tom Hanks, We Were Soldiers with Mel Gibson, Patch Adams with Robin Williams and Rules of Engagement with Samuel L. Jackson. Hurst's 15 years of steady, wide raging television credits include Steven Spielberg's Taken (mini-series, 10 episodes), TNT's action packed cop drama Wanted Emmy® award winning Medium (three seasons, reoccurring). Source:http://www.fxnetworks.com

Without sounding ridiculous, this character for Ryan shows me again the difference between acting, and true UNREAL talent. As I re watch season one, and this season, I can't find words to describe how friggin scary his gift is.

I know I cannot be the only one that gets emotion pulled right from them!

I watch Medium with the kids, and it's difficult to believe Ryan plays both roles.

I wish I was a true tv and movie writer to explain what I feel.  Luckily I have Alan Sepinwall. He is an awesome writer for the Star Ledger, critic, and fellow blogger --->  here on What's Alan Watching.

Please don't take my word on it!  Put the kids to bed, and watch this show.  Enjoy for yourself.

Kurt Sutter's Sons of Anarchy is worth every Tuesday! The ENTIRE cast makes me smile, and the MUSIC is out of this world.  If you decide to watch, I am on Twitter, tweeting away while watching! http://twitter.com/abutterflyloves

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.





Monday, October 19, 2009

Saturday, October 17, 2009

Amethystium - Arcus



Amethystium is an ambient/New Age electronic music project created by Norwegian producer/composer/multi-instrumentalist Øystein Ramfjord. Under the Amethystium name, Ramfjord has released four full-length albums, Odonata, Aphelion, Evermind, and Isabliss on Neurodisc Records, as well as a collection of works, Emblem

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Sunday, October 11, 2009

Diwali - The Festival Of Lights

Light is Sprit.
Light is Energy.
Light is Wisdom.
Light is Life.
Happy festival of Lights.
 
India is a country that is culturally so rich that it celebrates one or the other festival almost every month. And most of these festivals have their origin in Indian Mythology and there is very interesting stories about them.


It is the spiritual and religious richness in India that each festival is related to some or other deity.
 
 
One of such festivals is the 'festival of lights', Deepawali.
 
The festival of diwali is celebrated by the Indians throughout the world in a joyous mood with great zeal and enthusiasm. Diwali is not limited to just one-day celebration like many other Indian festivals but it is a unique one for it brings a series of festivals and holidays with itself. Diwali is the festival of worship of Goddess Lakshmi, lights, crackers, cleanliness, sweets, lots of shopping, happiness, togetherness and almost one week's holiday.
 
 

The light of lights, the self-luminous inner light of the Self is ever shining steadily in the chamber of your heart.

Sit quietly.

Close your eyes.

Withdraw the senses.

Sharing light with Kimmy.



Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Friday, October 9, 2009

Fighting until you cross the finish line


Almost all my blog posts are about taking ownership for your own actions and changing it up by taking self blame for poor choices.  

At any time, ANYONE, can decide, hey, my way isn't working, let me try something else. To those of you that are looking for a change, best way to teach ownership, is to take ownership.

Here is a personal example of my failure, and listening to others to help the one I love. Kimmy.

I brag about my strong daughter, but like most pre-teen girls, besides boys, music, and friends, she had no direction. I knew she was only 13ish, but I didn't want her struggling like me.  I wanted better motivation for education and further education.

My daughter spent most of her pre-teens and early teen life grounded. Yes.  We didn't take the bs.  But the groundings weren't working. By mid first semester of her sophomore year of High School, she had several Fs. Her room was BARE.  I was failing to motivate her. My husband and I were so frustrated with her silence, and all the non communication.  I wanted, and tried to blame the school. It was kind of hard to blame all her teachers, the deans, and principals via phone and email.  I work full time, and have since I was 18.  I don't have the energy to raise a kid, be a wife and mother, and a full time recruiter in the beginning of a recession.

I had a boss that was bold. Alyssa's actions and grades at school was causing my work to suffer. My boss pulled me aside.  Even though she didn't have kids, she said, "Kimmy, YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG! YOU NEED TO GIVE THAT GIRL SOME FREEDOM!!! RIGHT NOW SHE HAS NOTHING TO LOSE OR GAIN!!"  

Now I could have turned my nose up. I could have ignored. But my way wasn't being motivating. I was failing that kid.  I knew I had to try something else, keep changing it up.

I asked that same boss, if she would let me schedule a meeting with the High School during work hours.  She agreed. So I went.

Every teacher Alyssa had, every dean, every principal, came into the office right after first bell. What started out with me asking for notification of her grades, quickly turned into a "bash mom" session.  The grades were available online I was told. Why wasn't I checking? They asked over and over. As the meeting went on, I could see that the room shifted to a kid failing, to it is MOM's fault!!  And guess what...I had to hide a smile!!  Yes!  It was! I was failing her. The teachers now felt obligated to help Alyssa, to save her from mom.  It was so funny to watch the entire room back my daughter, and look at me as a working mom.  It was great!

After that day, those teachers took a personal interest in Alyssa. One of her study hall teachers, on his own, invited the Girls Track Coach to 2nd hr study hall to meet Alyssa.  One permission slip later, She was on the girls track team, running, sprinting, shotput and discus.   She met more friends.  After that, the choir teacher, decided to introduce Alyssa to the theatre crew.  So, when she wasn't performing in the choir, she was doing lights, set up and take down. MAN...I should have taken ownership of my failures earlier!!!!  With the better grades, and the fact she was at school until way after 7 pm every day, she was also going out more with friends.

I had to keep an eye on those grades. I gave warning, I set that kid up for success.  Did she still miss assignments? YUP.  But instead me never checking, it was caught early, and I jumped in the bad guy role.  I called or emailed the teacher asking how I can help.  I think the teachers started pushing Alyssa more just to make sure I didn't email.  Again, being the bad guy brought great pleasure watching Alyssa and the teachers pushing each other to succeed.  They suprised me her Senior Year, she was asked to write for the "South Side Story, (school paper),and published at three or four stories every issue.  Alyssa didn't even tell me at first.  She placed the first edition on the coffee table without telling anyone. When I saw her first article, I couldn't even read it, tears were welled up.  Little did I know she was watching our reaction from the dining room.  Proud mom, proud daughter!

Can you imagine what would have happened if I would have told my boss that she was being judgmental, and clenched my teeth and said, "don't tell me what to do!"  Can you imagine if I had told her, "The reason she doesn't do her homework is because she is so much smarter than the other kids?"  My boss would have told me that I was being ridiculous.

It wasn't her suggestion that changed Alyssa. It was changing my behavior. Changing it up taking the blame! We changed up our efforts, to try something else; because what we as parents were doing wasn't working for her. 

Our society has an excuse for every thing that happens in life.  How much of society is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results? How many parents find the world to blame, because they rather blame something, some disease, anything but themselves? Are they teaching their children to take ownership, or find something or someone to blame?

The below post is from my daughter after reading this.   I asked her if she wanted to add anything to my thoughts.  She knows I get judgmental on issues, so I asked her to take a look to make sure I was able to get my point across in a positive manner. I have to change up my own behavior, to better myself.  I have a problem offering opinions and turning that into bashing. I can help it.  I can take a step back and try to get my point across without offending. Take ownership, and make the necessary changes.

To my mom's readers;

To think that this all started over four years ago... At the time I started high school, all I wanted was the typical Disney life. What those shows do not show you, is you begin to fail every class, and end up struggling to find a path that will keep you alive. After failing three classes my freshman year I began to believe that my high school was going to end in me graduating a year late, but the determination of my parents to keep me on the right track and the help from my teachers made it easier for me to continue.

About halfway through my Sophomore year, I found several great friends who helped me on my path to success. Most of the friends that I had prior to that; were the no names, and the people who couldn't care less about the world around them. After that, I found friends whose names were everywhere around the school; from the play cast list, to the people involved in sports. It made it easier because they all had the drive, and the will to succeed. Being around that positive energy pushed me to be a positive force.

I ended up passing all of my classes that semester and every semester after that. I ended up graduating with three credits more than I needed. And at graduation,  I came to say goodbye and hugged a teacher after graduation. He told me he saw this coming from the start, and that he was proud to have helped me in my high school journey.

My parents, while constantly working, still always made time to fit me into their day. I made sure after my sophomore year to include them in my life, and I think that helped out with the family communication. Honestly, I couldn't of asked for better parents. They put up with a lot and managed not to kill me in the process.

I know that most people say that if they could go back they would do it differently, but I cannot help but wonder if the mistakes that I made and the advice that I have received in the last four years would have been passed along to me if I hadn't made all of these mistakes. 


I definitely wouldn't do it over again though. My current journey of being a full time student, and meeting several great new friends and a great guy with goals makes me too happy to go back to high school!

Sometimes all you need is that person or people to catch you when you fall and thankfully I had those people along the way.
 


Written by Alyssa Garcia.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Dark Place






I have taken too much dark energy.. it takes a while to process and remove the darkness...


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Monday, October 5, 2009

Bob only wanted his parents or someone to tell him "No"?

In The Outsiders, what do you think Randy meant when he told Ponyboy that Bob only wanted his parents or someone to tell him "No"

Bob was the spoiled child of extremely permissive parents.  

Randy remembers a time when he came home "drunker than anything", but instead of getting mad at him his parents "took all the blame and didn't do anything to him...they thought it was their fault - that they'd driven him to do it or something".  

For a child to be allowed to run wild like that, with no consequences for bad behavior is very frightening and unsettling; a child looks to adults to take control and set boundaries, "to give him something solid to stand on".  

If a child does not receive this kind of support when he is young, it is not unusual for him to continue to seek it through his adolescent years and even to adulthood, through antisocial and even criminal acts.  

According to Randy, Bob desperately wanted his parents to love him enough to set limits to his behavior.  

He would go to great lengths in acting out, just "trying to make someone say 'No'" (Chapter 7).

So what is the moral of this post??

Be the example to your child!
As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.





Sunday, October 4, 2009

Think of you


Think not of the faults of others,
of what they have done or not done.
Think of your own faults,
of the things you have done or not done.

Taken from Dhammapada.

The title, Dhammapada, is a compound term composed of dhamma and pada, each word having a number of denotations and connotations. Generally, dhamma can refer to the Buddha's "doctrine" or an "eternal truth" or "righteousness" or all "phenomena" and, at its root, pada means "foot" and thus by extension, especially in this context, means either "path" or "verse" or both. English translations of this text's title have used various combination of these and related words.



Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Thursday, October 1, 2009

Butterfly Angel Blur


I am sorry I haven't posted in a few days. We are moving our office from the burbs to downtown Chicago, and we are pretty busy at work.  I miss my blog friends, and since I don't have any weddings to go to, I will visit this weekend!

Here is a beautiful picture for you.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Friday, September 25, 2009

Apache Wedding Prayer

Now you will feel no rain,

for each of you will be shelter for the other.

Now you will feel no cold,

for each of you will be warmth to the other.

Now there will be no loneliness,

for each of you will be companion to the other.

Now you are two persons,

but there are three lives before you: his life, her life and your life together.



Go now to your dwelling place to enter into your days together.

And may all your days be good and long upon the Earth. - Apache Wedding Prayer

I am going to my sister in law's wedding tomorrow. Angela is starting her life with a wonderful man named John.

I am feeling a little sentimental. I am posting a picture of Rick and I from our wedding and this wonderful poem I found on the internet.

Thanks for visiting me. Have a wonderful weekend.  

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Sunday, September 20, 2009

A Wish


I lie on the ground,

and stare into space,

the stars start to move,

into the shape of your face.


I see you there now,

looking down at me,

with that cute little smile,

that I like to see.


You say "close your eyes",

"tell me what you see",

I see only two people,

just you and me.


We're walking the shoreline,

with our feet getting wet,

the horizon turns pink,

as the sun starts to set.


We make love through the night,

on that white sandy shore,

then I hold you while thinking,

I could want nothing more.


Oh I wish I could be,

in that one special place,

as I lie on the ground,

and I stare into space.

Sharing light with Author Randy Schutte. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.  Thank you Randy for permission to use your Poem.

Photo by Rosie Hardy - I am right here

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Friday, September 18, 2009

You

You brought happiness into my lonely heart

You brought emotions alive again

You were not prepared what we were to start

You were not ready for what was to begin

You saw my pain and my sorrow

You made me look forward to another tomorrow

You made me laugh and you made me cry

But most of all you made me feel alive
 
Sharing light with Author Chad Evans. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Tuesday, September 8, 2009

Be more and more a watcher

Be more and more at ease.

Be more and more here and now.

Be more and more in action, and less and less in activity.

Be more and more hollow, empty, passive.



Be more and more a watcher — indifferent, not expecting anything, not desiring anything.

Be happy with yourself as you are.

Osho.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Friday, September 4, 2009

Alyssa, the college student extraordinaire

The Proud Mom post.

I think back to where I was September 1990, after I graduated High School. I had just found out I was pregnant with Alyssa.

Rick and I were eighteen, and besides wanting a family, we didn't know much how to do it!

Now our daughter is eighteen. She is a full time college student, doing volunteer work all over our city and county. She worked full time in a Help Desk environment over the summer, and received praise for her work ethic and performance.

When she has free time, she drives to Des Plaines to help my seventy-one year mother with whatever she can help with. She drives grandma to the store, helps out with the chores. Just yesterday after class, she went to my niece, her cousin's open house, because my brother was unable to attend. She went to all of her classes to gather information on the cirriculum.

I know she is going to be embarrassed to read this. But truly, I could not be more proud. She has a giving, selfless soul who thinks of others first.

Blessed for the holiday weekend! I hope you all are too!

Happy Labor Day!!


Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

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Saturday, August 29, 2009

Reaching for Mutual Respect

Do you respect your partner? I find that one or both partners believe themselves to be truly better than their partner.

Not just better at certain tasks or skills; but better as a whole person.

This is what leads to the idea that if only one's partner could be "fixed" then the partnership would be happy and successful.

The trouble is most people aren't broken.

Life was working before we allied with our partner and will continue to work even if they are gone. We are with our partner because it enhances our life, makes us even more functional and hopefully happier. Not to say that everyone can't improve in certain skill areas.

Respecting our partner has to be built on the recognition that they are fully functional and remarkably capable people. You partner may not be as good as you are at organization, or baseball, or cooking, or gardening or whatever. But, guess what? You aren't as good as they are at many things. Which of you is better? The only answer in a successful partnership is neither!

Partnership can never be about whom is better. Partnership is about recognizing each party's strengths and about recognizing our own weaknesses. Notice that in the weakness area your task is to recognize your own weaknesses without a primary focus on your partner's. That is their job. As you each recognize your weak areas this can be a point of discussion and understanding (perhaps a place for active listening) so you know how and when to cover for each other.

When you can begin to recognize and accept your weaker areas then you've started the process of accepting help. You can hardly ask for assistance if you don't know where you need it.

Help without permission is a violation of your partner. Permission can only be granted if your partner has the option to refuse the help. On occasion a partner may want to struggle a little longer or get their ideas or skills more organized before they are ready for further input. Mutual respect includes the ability to wait.

The journey for partners is to advance the team through mutual growth, success and respect.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Article excerpts taken from; The Answer is Mutual Respect by David W. Edgerly, Ph.D. Copyright 1998; All rights reserved.

Photo by Rosie Hardy - Another Step on the Ladder

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Thursday, August 20, 2009

A Butterfly Loves

My eyes open upon a beautiful day;
Full of hope, memories and desire.
You are in my arms holding my soul.
Enticing me into the fire;
And for moments so true, I am whole.

I love you with a passion; I knew not I owned.
With each minute that drifts;

I love thee as a butterfly loves.

The wind beneath its wings;
as the sunshine owns the day.

Together we belong,
within each others love.

My soul seeks,
with eyes ever seeing.

Sharing light with Kimmy. Striving to create a path between the present course of events and a new course; leading to new outcomes.

Photo by Samidoodle, Bring On The Butterfly Effect

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Saturday, August 15, 2009

Wings of Courage

The wings of courage and enthusiasm enable one to fly forward.

While moving forward we sometimes find ourselves in a position where there seems to be no progress.

We don't seem to understand the reason for this and we find success eluding us.

We try different methods for success but if we look within we find that either we have no courage or no enthusiasm, which prevents us from giving our best to the task.

We need to have both the wings of courage and enthusiasm in order to succeed. If there is no courage we give up trying. On the other hand, if there is no enthusiasm we get tired and tiredness never lets us work towards success.

So before we take up any task we should make sure we fill both these wings with such power that we will be able to work constantly till we succeed.

Kimmy ~ Creating a path between the present course of events and a new course, leading to new outcomes.

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