Saturday, August 30, 2008

Inherent Peace

In order to overcome negative thoughts, the process is to make effort to remove them. But have you noticed that the more we think about them, even if it is to remove them, we find ourselves becoming more angry? This makes the influence of negativity stronger.

The solution lies in making effort of working with virtues. Instead of saying we will not work with anger; Practice working with our inherent peace. For this we need to make it a habit to fill that quiet still peace so that it emerges naturally even in difficult situations.

Friday, August 29, 2008

A Fleeting Glimpse

There are doors opening all around you. Stop for a moment, close your eyes and take a deep breath. You are surrounded by opportunity.

The difficulty that most have with these doors is that they are not planned and they are not clearly marked. They are doors you may approach and perhaps glimpse into, but they are not going to deliver up their purpose until you take a deep breath and walk through.

And once inside, who knows what may await you? It could be that you will be led to the base of a mountain, and the climb ahead may seem quite daunting from this vantage point. But the reward is new growth, a new becoming.

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Sense of Purpose

The true meaning of responsibility is not just additional duties to be done, but has more to do with being honest to the task and driven with a sense of purpose. When I work with this attitude I find things getting easier and I also receive help at every step.

If you miss an opportunity, do not cloud your eyes with tears; keep your vision clear so that you will not miss the next one.

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

No Day but Today

This video is how I am feeling today. Have a great one.

"RENT" - Finale B: No Day But Today

There Is No Future - There Is No Past

Thank God This Moments Not The Last

There's Only Us
There's Only This
Forget Regret Or Life Is Yours To Miss

No Other Road No Other Way
No Day But Today

I Can't Control

My Destiny

I Trust My Soul

My Only Goal
Is Just To Be

Without You
The Hand Gropes
The Ear Hears
The Pulse Beats
Life Goes On
But I'm Gone
Cause I Die
Without You
I Die Without You
I Die Without You
I Die Without You
I Die Without You
I Die Without You

No Day But Today

Will I Lose My Dignity
Will Someone Care
Will I Wake Tomorrow
From This Nightmare

There's Only Now
There's Only Here
Give In To Love
Or Live In Fear
No Other Path
No Other Way
No Day But Today

No Day But Today
No Day But Today
No Day But Today
No Day But Today
No Day But Today

No Day But Today

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Energy Affirmation

Picture property of Touchstone Pictures

I protect myself with a shield of energy. I enable it to reflect and transform any energies that are not of the light into pure light and love. I am.

Not all posts have to be serious to be effective!

Monday, August 25, 2008


Sometimes we make a lot of promises to ourselves and to others. In the moment, we are very confident of what we are saying;but later find that our promise doesn't come into action. So that promise gets wasted as we don't take benefit from the intensity of that moment.

When we make a promise to bring about a change in ourselves we need to immediately make a practical plan that will help us make the promise real. We also need to make sure we understand why fulfilling that promise is important for us. Along with this we also need to remind ourselves again and again about it till it becomes habit.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Eight gifts that do not cost a cent

It's up to you, it's in your hands.

The Gift of Listening…But you must really listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

The Gift of Affection…Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

The Gift of Laughter…Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, "I love to laugh with you."

The Gift of a Written Note…A brief, handwritten note may be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life.

The Gift of a Compliment…A simple and sincere, "You look great in red," "You did a super job" or "That was a wonderful meal" can make someone’s day.

The Gift of a Favor…Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

The Gift of Solitude…There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

The Gift of a Cheerful Disposition…The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone, really it’s not that hard to say, Hello or Thank You. - Author unknown

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Many have chosen NOT to see the light!

Here are eye-opening facts about areas in our lives where we have chosen not to see what must be seen, in order to grow.

1. We close our eyes to the fact that the imaginary value we have placed upon our life only holds up for as long as others don't disturb our dreams.

2. We close our eyes to the fact that wherever we go, and regardless of whom we meet, we still seem to run into the same conflicts and experience the same negativities.

3. We close our eyes to the fact that what we call being sorry for our bad behavior really just means that we don't want to be bothered anymore by those who have been troubled by our unpleasant manifestations.

4. We close our eyes to the fact we blame others for what we call their selfish insistence that we serve their interests when the real pain in such moments is but our own resentment over our cowardly inability to just say "No."

5. We close our eyes to the fact that in spite of all of the pain it causes us, and others, we still believe that we know what it means to be a "winner" in life.

6. We close our eyes to the fact that just because we have mastered hiding some character fault of ours doesn't mean that it has stopped hurting those around us who cannot avoid being subjected to it.

7. We close our eyes to the fact that we would rather have the company of known liars and betrayers than have to go through our life by ourselves.

8. We close our eyes to the fact that we will only inconvenience ourselves (especially when it comes to answering the need of others) as a means of avoiding what we see as being a greater pain: their complaints!

9. We close our eyes to the fact that crying for ourselves out of self-pity doesn't change one thing about the nature of the self that is the secret source of all these tears.

For extra swift healing study these friendly guides with the intention of welcoming their light. Remember that our work is to see ourselves through the eyes of Truth and then leave Truth to take care of the rest. Choose in favor of your freedom.

Choose to see!

Friday, August 22, 2008

My secret art

I have spent many years denying the fact that my work is art. I see myself as the producer, the director, and sometimes even the vision. I am a student of life, yet I like to share the truths that I have found for me, in me.

As a poet, I like to combine different moods, with direct art forms. I like to mix colors to match the mood I am in. I like to write a verse of poetry, and tell my story about the current mind frame I have.

As a musician, I can tell you what is spiritually sound to me, and what is noise. I know how to teach, yet my confidence and my poor hearing will force me to go off key many times. So I focus on who I can help reach a better understanding. It's very hard to be a child church diva, and then someone who can't hold key. But that's where my artist side comes in.

As an artist, I try to pick my songs more to my range. I create images that reflect what I am rather than who I am. What's your secret art?

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Ding Dong, is the Witch really Dead?

"Vanity is definitely my favorite sin" - Satan in the Devil's Advocate 1997

Who noticed the wicked witch of the west to have such stylish, lavish magical shoes in 1939? And what happened to her? Her sister dropped a house on her!

According to wikipedia, vanity is the excessive belief in one's own abilities or attractiveness to others. Does that mean in only outward appearance, or in ourself as a whole?

When is enough, truly enough?

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Music and your emotional state

Music has the ability to move people in ways like nothing else in the universe can. Hearing a song that you like can change your emotional state instantly or very quickly. It’s like one moment you’re feeling this way and the next moment, you’re feeling very different.

Music gives you energy in doing what you do. When you’re in tune with the music, your whole body just feels like jammin along with the beat, the rhythm and the flow of the song.

It’s an incredible experience. Nothing else that exists can ever replace what it does in our very souls?

What is it that is so special about music?

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Power in Numbers or Monkey see Monkey do?

The Hundredth Monkey
By Ken Keyes Jr.

The Japanese monkey, Macaca fuscata, had been observed in the wild for a period of over 30 years. In 1952, on the island of Koshima, scientists were providing monkeys with sweet potatoes dropped in the sand.

The monkeys liked the taste of the raw sweet potatoes, but they found the dirt unpleasant. An 18-month-old female named Imo found she could solve the problem by washing the potatoes in a nearby stream. She taught this trick to her mother. Her playmates also learned this new way and they taught their mothers too.

This cultural innovation was gradually picked up by various monkeys before the eyes of the scientists. Between 1952 and 1958 all the young monkeys learned to wash the sandy sweet potatoes to make them more palatable. Only the adults who imitated their children learned this social improvement. Other adults kept eating the dirty sweet potatoes. Then something startling took place. In the autumn of 1958, a certain number of Koshima monkeys were washing sweet potatoes - the exact number is not known.

Let us suppose that when the sun rose one morning there were 99 monkeys on Koshima Island who had learned to wash their sweet potatoes. Let's further suppose that later that morning, the hundredth monkey learned to wash potatoes.


By that evening almost everyone in the tribe was washing sweet potatoes before eating them. The added energy of this hundredth monkey somehow created an ideological breakthrough! But notice. A most surprising thing observed by these scientists was that the habit of washing sweet potatoes then jumped over the sea

Colonies of monkeys on other islands and the mainland troop of monkeys at Takasakiyama began washing their sweet potatoes. Thus, when a certain critical number achieves an awareness, this new awareness may be communicated from mind to mind. Although the exact number may vary, this Hundredth Monkey Phenomenon means that when only a limited number of people know of a new way, it may remain the conscious property of these people. But there is a point at which if only one more person tunes-in to a new awareness, a field is strengthened so that this awareness is picked up by almost everyone!

Well, I think this a great example of the people following, if there is enough people doing it. I am all for energy work, but in humans, I see more and more, people hesitating to do something unless they see their neighbors doing it.

Power in Numbers or Monkey see Monkey do?

Monday, August 18, 2008


Generally there is always a wish not to have to face any obstacles. When we begin something new we usually have a thought to have things going better than before. So when obstacles do come we are not prepared and we usually complain and moan wondering why we are faced with problems.

However, whenever we start something new we need to prepare our mind that we are sure to be faced with obstacles. Along with it we also need to understand that these obstacles actually teach us something new and it is only with such situations we can learn and progress. When we have such thoughts we will be able to remain cheerful under all circumstances.

Keep climbing, no matter what the obstacles.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

Not an Auror, never saw this coming

Yes, I need to take a small break and add my feelings on this. Most of the world by now, knows that Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince was pushed from November 2008 to July 2009. My countdown clock went from three months, to almost a year.

Now I am just another fan that owns the movies, the books, the audio books, numerous toys, posters, etc. I pre-ordered Beetle the Bard, and the Xbox 360 game for the hubby. Right now, I am so close to canceling order, and perhaps buy it in July 2009.

My story of Harry Potter delay is a huge let down for my nine year old nephew. This winter he finally asked me to watch the first Harry Potter movie. I was in shock. He likes Super Mario Bros! But we watched, and I promised that he needs to catch up and read the books, and I will take him and his sister to the theatre in November. It was JUST Wednesday, 8/13/2008, and I saw him again. He said to me, "Auntie Kimmy, I finished Half Blood Prince early! Now I am going to read Deathly Hallows." I was in utter shock. He was adorable.

Now I wish I knew what to say. Writers Strike, uhm no. Actors strike, strike that. HMM. Picture not completed? I think it is. No, I get to tell him that I just don't know why they stalled the release. I have been to midnight showings. I have seen women get chills when we circle around the finally released trailer, and the music starts.

So that's it. Not really a rant, just want to look back one day, and try to understand later what WB was thinking.

Saturday, August 16, 2008


Somebody is very proud of you.
Somebody is thinking of you.
Somebody is caring about you.
Somebody misses you.
Somebody wants to talk to you.
Somebody wants to be with you.
Somebody hopes you are not in trouble.
Somebody is thankful for the support you have provided.
Somebody wants to hold your hand.
Somebody hopes everything turns out all right.
Somebody wants you to be happy.
Somebody wants you to find him/her.
Somebody wants to give you a gift.
Somebody wants to hug you.
Somebody thinks you ARE a gift.
Somebody admires your strength.
Somebody wants to protect you.
Somebody can't wait to see you.
Somebody loves you for who you are.
Somebody treasures your spirit.
Somebody is glad that you are their friend.
Somebody wants to get to know you better.
Somebody wants to be near you.
Somebody wants you to know they are there for you.
Somebody would do anything for you.
Somebody wants to share their dreams with you.
Somebody is alive because of you.
Somebody needs your support.
Somebody will cry when they read this.
Somebody needs you to have faith in them.
Somebody trusts you.
Somebody hears a song that reminds them of you.


Friday, August 15, 2008

Drowning, but then, a light.

This is a story of a man who was crossing the Atlantic by ship. He was terribly sick and confined to his cabin. One night he heard the cry “Man overboard!” He felt that there was nothing he could do to help, but at second thought, he said to himself, “I guess I can at least put my lantern in the porthole.” He struggled to his feet and hung the light so it shined out into the darkness.

The next day he learned that the person who was rescued said, “I was going down in the dark night for the last time, when someone put a light in a porthole. As it shone on my hand, a sailor in a lifeboat grabbed it and pulled me in.”

All of us have weaknesses — and times of weakness. The fact of the matter is, though, that weak or not, we need to muster up the strength to put our lights in our portholes for the sake of the the lost among us. It’s so tempting to sulk in our weaknesses, and stay in our beds — but we should expects more of us. He has given us the strength to do all things — even move mountains! There are so many people around us sinking in despair. - snip from DL Moody

Have you shined your light for others today?

Thursday, August 14, 2008

New level of consciousness

"All the greatest and most important problems of life are fundamentally insolvable... they can never be solved, but only outgrown. This 'outgrowth' proved on further investigation to require a new level of consciousness. Some higher or wider interest appeared on the person's horizon, and through this broadening of his or her outlook the unsolvable problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms but faded when confronted with a new and stronger life urge."

— Carl Jung
Founder of Analytical Psychology

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Connecting Link - a bridge

"With love I will tear down the wall of suspicion and hate which they have built round their hearts and in its place I will build bridges so that my love may enter their souls."...

I love the concept of bridges being a connecting link between souls.

I think before I was even old enough to know what a covered bridge was, I had a dream that I walked through one into a beautiful world with beautiful gardens and people with big smiles, I was told that I was not supposed to be there and was sent back through the bridge.

I think the reason, I was sent back is to learn that we can experience that world, in the here and now and to let others know. We can walk through a bridge of realization into a higher understanding of the world, we are already in!

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

On becoming the example

When we watch our children start a new journey, or life challenge, they look for role models or inspiration. We usually never think of being an inspiration for them. Without guidance, they begin to lose enthusiasm to the extent that they might give up what they started.

For whatever we do, we need to have the aim of becoming an example, an inspiration for others. The more we have this in our mind, our children will never be discouraged by others' actions. Instead we will be able to perform each action with such enthusiasm and such perfection that we becomes an inspiration for our children, family and others.

Monday, August 11, 2008

Deceived by blaming others

There are so many times when a situation takes us by surprise and we make the same mistake that we had made before. It is only when the situation has passed that we realize that we have actually repeated that mistake. What then remains is only us kicking ourselves instead of having done something different.

Whenever we make a mistake, we need to first admit it was our mistake, and then learn from whatever has happened. This way there will be no kicking ourselves, (or others), for the mistakes made. There will be, wait for it...learning that'll force us to enhance our journey! And when we've seen our mistakes for what they are, we'll never be deceived by situations, and look to blame others.

Sunday, August 10, 2008

Staying the course takes devotion

Being in love is wonderful and fine

But the addictive side of love can sometimes be blind

Some can easily tap into the emotion

Staying the course takes devotion

A dream of a family

And of beautiful things to come

Embracing a life in your arms

Seeing ahead to something beautiful

That came from the both of you

Gives a relationship substance

Gives it glue

Working together to build a wonderful life

The sacred bond of husband and wife

Reaching for something bigger then the both of you

Keeps hearts focused and true

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Natasha Bedingfield - Soulmate

Incompatible, it don't matter though
'cause someone's bound to hear my cry
Speak out if you do
You're not easy to find

Is it possible, Mr. Loveable
Is already in my life?
Right in front of me
Or maybe you're in disguise

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Here we are again, circles never end
How do I find the perfect fit
There's enough for everyone
But I'm still waiting in line

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

If there's a soulmate for everyone

Most relationships seem so transitory
They're all good but not the permanent one

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Who doesn't long for someone to hold
Who knows how to love you without being told
Somebody tell me why I'm on my own
If there's a soulmate for everyone
If there's a soulmate for everyone

Happy Saturday everyone. Thought this song was pretty cool. Seems like so many people aren't happy with their mate, and always look else where. I love her second verse.

Is it possible, Mr. Loveable
Is already in my life?
Right in front of me
Or maybe you're in disguise

Perhaps it's too late to wake up , but perhaps not!


Friday, August 8, 2008

Maybe I am just too harsh.

In my interactions with others, I sometimes only use my logic. I am very strong willed and understand the facts very clearly. More times than not, I keep myself limited only to the facts and tend to forget to use my compassion. I become emotionally unavailable to the other person and fail to help.

I have done a lot of reading and open discussion in order to be successful in my interactions with others. I need to have the proper balance between my mind and my heart. I need to see beyond what the facts say and try to listen and understand the other person too. When I do this I will not hurt people with my attitude but will be able to maintain healthy relationships.

Thursday, August 7, 2008

Four Horses of the Mind - Robert Bourne

At times I wonder
Where my mind goes
As the four horses
Seem to thunder
In different directions each
Love,anger emotions all
Feed them a witches brew
Pulling me in very way
Till I harness the beasts
Control by thought
Time a factor
Keeping all in check

Many days are passed
All in step as I
Dance through life

In a calmness
That gives me peace

Agony or ecstasy
Strains the reins
Of the eight thundering hoofs

As age passes my strength
Diminishes day by day

Replaced by a patience
Experience drawn
From past mistakes

Less wild rides
Across the hills
Of life and love
More focus from the beasts

Robert Bourne

For more of Robert's beautiful writing click here.

Wednesday, August 6, 2008

Hiding behind the butterfly

As a caterpillar, it is a choice that needs to be made to hibernate for a time, to allow change and development into another being. In the life of the caterpillar, it morphs into the butterfly. As human life evolves, we reach self actualization.

I do not think I am a butterfly. I am near that process, only looking towards that goal.

I sometimes forget that there is still life to live while a caterpillar. I get annoyed by the people who waste life on trivial matters. So annoyed that I lose focus on what I should be doing.

I need to draw on energy for good, and the faith of this earth. And hope one day I will come out a butterfly.

Tuesday, August 5, 2008

Inflated Ego (This is for the girls)

When someone points out our ego, we don't want to accept it and we continue to go on with our selfish direction. Ego refuses the ability to learn and negatively effects our relationships because there is no give and take. Only take, and take and take.

The method to overcome ego is to develop humility. If you were never taught humility, humility means to be strong within yet to be gentle and able to take feedback. You aren't perfect, and have to accept that fact. Knowing this enables us to bend, what we think we are, and see ourselves for the selfish person we have become. When we admit it it doesn't mean we are defeated, but it reveals our own victory.

It is only when we are truthful with who we are and forgive ourselves and others for not worshipping us, will we be able to allow the flow of natural ups and downs in relationships.

Sunday, August 3, 2008

Of course! My Truth and "soul"-u-tion

How much energy have I wasted on people that I thought were my friends, but I was torn to shreds under interrogation or having to hear excuses?? How many times did I have to explain why I try to help or try to heal? Do all humans have to justify when and where they take their next breath?

I will not longer use any of my energy to get upset. Maybe that's Spirit's way to tell me that these friends are not tolerant to what they can't understand?? They change what they do not see! I will not feed into it. Change is a choice. You want it or you don't.

What am I supposed to learn here?

Maybe I am supposed to learn that I do not "know it all."

I think I will continue to focus on my intolerant issues and see if I can overcome them.

One aspect that I truly believe is I must get rid of anything that causes negativity, or anger. I just do not have the energy. I need to be focusing on the way I serve others, not by the way I debate.

I see the light..

Saturday, August 2, 2008

The footsteps of Isolation

Pulled from an old online diary of mine.

2004-02-07 - 1:12 p.m.

The footsteps of Isolation® - Kimmy

Six months had passed since I left. Still, so sign of acceptable
social acheivement. Refusing to answer the phone, doorbell, emails.
Intimidated to go out, not wanting to deal with any crowd, noise, and
looks. Hoping my wish of being a wallflower blending with the crowd,
would finally run its course.

Sometimes I think the leave of absence caused more damage than good.

I attempted to get a regular job. Monday through Friday. And although unknown in this realm, I still am noticed, not being able to escape the limelight.

Have you ever wished you could just blend in? Have you watched people that will go unnoticed? What talent do they have to live life, and never be in the center of chaos?

Is there any hope to stray away from the path of isolation, I don't
know. This walk I take is the only way now. Other avenues will only
make immediate matters worse.

The only escape is a fantasy world. Like in Tolkien's world of Middle
Earth. There we all have a level of respect, but one is no greater
than another. All is and shall be created equal.


Family that cheers together...

I’m going to take a break from my normal format by answering this snip I saw on a blog this morning.

1. If I could travel back in time, I’d go back with my Dziadzia (grandfather) sit next to him, and just watch hours of baseball with him.

2. Give me the respect to at least listen to what I have to say. I don't care if you don't listen, I just don't want you to whine about it when you try it again your way, and fail...again.

3. I am listening to my ceiling fan.

4. Somewhere, someone is thinking of me, yeah. I tend to bring up issues people do not want to face. This makes me a hypocrite, because I would rather point out other's mistakes than my own. Alas, the more I help others, the more I help myself.

5. I’ll always be a person with hard of hearing. So you have to repeat things now and then. Big deal. Try living with everyone whispering all the time.

6. My idea of a good time includes sharing LIFE and LOVE with my FAMILY. Family is very important to me. Prince said it best.
I don't care where we are, I don't care what we do, all I want pretty baby, is take me with you.

7. And as for the weekend, today is chores, and pool. Maybe hit Best Buy for a new Pink Floyd or Rolling Stones DVD. When I am not moving around. I will be here working on my website.

Have a great weekend! love, Kimmy

Friday, August 1, 2008

Momma's Boy

One point for each yes. Spoil Your Child..not..I scored zero

1. Rather than telling the child he has done something wrong, do you use the silly term "inappropriate" or "unacceptable"? If you answered yes, boldly teach the difference between right and wrong by using these more understandable words such as good, bad, yes and no.

2. At the end of the day, do you pick up after your child ---- dishes, toys, books, clothes ---- since that's easier than asking him to do it? If yes, you are getting him accustomed to having an expensive personal servant when he becomes a young adult.

3. When a child expresses an interest in a toy or sport, do you quickly fulfill his desire to attain it or participate in it? If so, you are teaching him that the world owes him everything he wants without effort or anticipation on his part.

4. Have you abandoned family mealtimes in favor giving your child fast foods and snacks whenever he wants them? In doing so, you are depriving him of three things: good nutrition, learning to enjoy a variety of foods, and participation in family (hahaha) togetherness at mealtimes.

5. When your son makes a crude remark, uses profanity or sneaks sips of alcohol from you, do you excuse it as "growing up"? Be prepared that this kind of "cuteness" will encourage language and activities that will shame you later in life.

6. Does he treat the possessions at your house, your car and in the community as if they were as disposable as toilet paper? If you do, this will result in a messy, uncaring citizen who does not value anything but himself.

7. Is your son given an allowance for little to no work that is so generous that he has no incentive to earn any money? Then be prepared to support him for his entire life, buying him a car, paying his credit card bills, giving him down payments ---- none of which he will appreciate.

8. Do you feel that giving a child a good understanding of ethics, morals and spirituality will stifle his creativity and warp his spontaneity? Doing that will reward you with a child who doesn't value himself, his body or his ability to function harmoniously with others. Not to mention will never learn to be a man. Only your little man.

9. When your son is reprimanded (by a teacher, activity leader, neighbor or law enforcement officer), do you immediately assume that they are picking on your child? This teaches lack of respect, the ability to politely defend oneself, and a warped sense of prejudice leading to the feeling that "everyone is against me."

10. If you and your spouse or ex have an argument about something, do you then bad-mouth your spouse in front of your son, filling him with hatred? If so, you will turn him against marriage and the needful art of problem solving.

11. Do you permit your son to engage in every teen fad so he can be "one of the crowd"? Then prepare for a wardrobe that causes you embarrassment, problems with bad hygiene, and the child's inability to think for himself and be an individual.

12. Do you figure that sex and violence in television and movies will prepare your son for the "real world"? Wouldn't it be better to help him enjoy and create a better world?

13. Is it your opinion that "kids must be kids" and dishonesty, cheating, plagiarism, minor shoplifting, drunkneness, and graffiti are an inevitable part of "growing up"? Start teaching your child that one doesn't have to experience these activities to know that they are totally wrong, a waste of time, illegal and eventually costly.

If you said yes to 10-13 of these questions, your child is heading toward delinquency. If you said yes to 6-9, your child is spoiled. If you said yes to 2-5, you should assess your parenting while you still can. With just one yes, congratulate yourself!