Thursday, July 31, 2008

And now, the time is near

Time to grow up kid!

It isn't a choice anymore. Being seventeen and having the perks of going out, staying out late, going on vacation with boyfriend and his family has a price. And that price is maturity. You can't ask for grown up-like privileges, and then demonstrate child-like behavior when you realize there is more to being an adult.

This next part of your life will be a challenge, no doubt. If you are not ready to move in one direction, wait. Don't commit to doing something if you cannot fully commit. Part of being an adult is honoring your word, your commitments. Dad and I are proud of the accomplishments so far. You are going to have to start making choices on your own soon. Every action has a consequence, and you are nearing the point where grounding will be the least of your worries. The consequences get more complicated when you are older.

I love you. The three of us, Dad, you and I make a good team. We can always work it out together.

Wednesday, July 30, 2008


Sometimes we find daily tasks to be very monotonous. There seems to be nothing new that is happening. Days pass on and we tend to become action-conscious only trying to finish the tasks at hand. We feel caught up in the routine not able to truly enjoy anything anymore.

How do you break the monotony? Learn something new everyday!

A dime has 118 ridges around the edge.

A crocodile cannot stick out its tongue.

A dragonfly has a life span of 24 hours.

A goldfish has a memory span of three seconds.

A "jiffy" is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.

A shark is the only fish that can blink with both eyes.

A snail can sleep for three years.

Al Capone's business card said he was a used furniture dealer.

All 50 states are listed across the top of the Lincoln Memorial on the
back of the $5 bill.

Almonds are a member of the peach family.

An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

Babies are born without kneecaps. They don't appear until the child reaches 2 to 6 years of age.

Butterflies taste with their feet.

Cats have over one hundred vocal sounds.

Dogs only have about 10.

In the last 4,000 years, no new animals have been domesticated.

If you are an average American, in your whole life, you will spend an average of 6 months waiting at red lights.

It's impossible to sneeze with your eyes open.

Maine is the only state whose name is just one syllable

No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, or purple.

Our eyes are always the same size from birth, but our nose and ears never stop growing.

Peanuts are one of the ingredients in dynamite.

The average person's left hand does 56% of the typing.

The Bible does not say there were three wise men; it only says there were three gifts.

The cruise liner, QE2, moves only six inches for each gallon of diesel that it burns.

The microwave was invented after a researcher walked by a radar tube and a chocolate bar melted in his pocket.

The sentence: "The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog" uses every letter of the alphabet.

The winter of 1932 was so cold that Niagara Falls froze completely solid.

The words 'racecar,' 'kayak' and 'level' are the same whether they are read left to right or right to left (palindromes).

There are 293 ways to make change for a dollar.

There are two words in the English language that have all five vowels in order: "abstemious" and "facetious."

There's no Betty Rubble in the Flintstones Chewables Vitamins.

Tigers have striped skin, not just striped fur.

TYPEWRITER is the longest word that can be made using the letters only on one row of the keyboard.

Winston Churchill was born in a ladies' room during a dance.

Women blink nearly twice as much as men.

Your stomach has to produce a new layer of mucus every two weeks; otherwise it will digest itself.

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Not my role to make others happy

It is not your role to make others happy; it is your role to keep yourself in balance. When you pay attention to how you feel and practice self-empowering thoughts that align with who-you-really-are,
you will offer an example of thriving that will be of tremendous value to those who have the benefit of observing you.

You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive or sick enough to help sick people get well. You only ever uplift from your position of strength and clarity and alignment.

©1997-2008 Abraham-Hicks Publications

Monday, July 28, 2008

Self-discipline and Moderation

Self-discipline means many things: being able to motivate and manage yourself and your time, being able to control yourself and your temper, being able to control your appetites (and here the companion word moderation comes into play).

Self-discipline and moderation are two sides of the same coin. Self-discipline is pulling up and away from the laziness of doing too little. Moderation is pulling in and away from the excesses of trying to do or to have too much.

Discipline and moderation are profound and universal values because their presence helps us and others and their absence inevitably causes short or long-term issues.

This is what I have been working on in my own journey. This is my inner struggle

Some just can't comprehend this

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." — Albert Einstein

Sunday, July 27, 2008

Never need to prove who we are

Do you shine like a diamond, or coal? Are you someone people want to be around because of your light, or do people avoid your black cloud of darkness?

We never need to prove who we are, but because our actions prove it beyond any shadow of a doubt. Just like a diamond never needs to prove but its sparkle is its proof of the value it has.

If I ever find myself giving excuses for my wrong or negative behavior or words, I need to ask myself if I have shown who I am, or only spoke it. When I do this, I will only grow in my walk for becoming a better person in all circumstances.

Saturday, July 26, 2008

Ponder this

"My life has no purpose, no direction, no aim, no meaning, and yet I'm happy. I can't figure it out. What am I doing right?" - Charles Schulz


"We should indulge in recreation frequently because it rests the mind and certain muscles of the body. Freeing the mind from the strain of daily tasks and the responsibilities of life has untold benefits.

Therefore, every one of us should participate in some form of amusement daily. Everyone should have a hobby. Latent talents and abilities often find expression through hobbies. Within each of us is an urge for self-expression. This urge often finds an outlet in hobbies, because the routine of daily work may not present such opportunities."

Friday, July 25, 2008

Seeing things that are not there

People overthink their negative thoughts and feelings, examining them, questioning them, kneading them like dough. And like dough, their problems swell in size.

When there is any pause in our daily activities, many of us are flooded with worries, thoughts and emotions that swirl out of control, sucking our emotions and energy down, down, down. We are suffering from an epidemic of
reading into things that are not there
—caught in torrents of negative thoughts and emotions that overwhelm us and interfere with our functioning and well-being.

Some of us wind up torturing those closest to them with their oversize need for reassurance. Plus, the very hopelessness of ruminators makes them unbearable to be around. So while they seek out others more, they actually get less of what they want from them.

One of the suggestions in this blog is to focus on what’s fact, and not just assume you think you know all the reasons. Look at the picture above. She sees things in the tv. If we are focusing on the fact, one simple point I would like to make is the tv has no signal, SHUT IT OFF!

The same goes for many things in everyday life. You don’t have to think a lot about everything. You can just stay in the now and let life present itself.

If we stick to proven facts, you may discover that the truth is often better than if you put in a lot of over thinking, drama, and pissing everyone off around you. You just have to let go of all that thinking that can cripple you.

From Marlana - Inner Voice

We need to learn the sound of our own inner voice. Often this voice is quiet and easy to miss. The noisiest ones are usually those voices branded into our mind as a child.

"All I hear are those yelling voices, how can I get rid of them?"

Love them, thank them. Yes, I know it sounds crazy to thank those voices that are constantly putting you down. Just listen to me for a minute before you turn your attention somewhere else. EVERY SINGLE part of yourself is trying to help you be a better person. Every single part of you is working to keep you safe. Even when their techniques are not working toward that direction, that does not change their motivation.

With this in mind, relax, and say "thank you" as those loud voices who jump up to make themselves heard. Then ask them to step to the side and quietly wait their turn. Keep doing this until your mind is quiet. Then ask this question: "What do I want right now, in this moment?" Listen to your answer. Trust your answer. Honor your answer. This is your heart letting you know its needs.

Your heart is like a child, treat it lovingly and tenderly. Any time you ignore it, send it angry energy to try to keep it quiet and so on it becomes louder. Imagine treating a small child the way you treat your heart or your Self. Notice the capital "S" on Self. You are learning to be Self centered..... mmmmm won't your mother be proud of you.

Blessings of Light, Marlana (

(kimmysharinglight was under the weather last night. Will post her own blog in a few hours!)


Wednesday, July 23, 2008

But it's who I am...blah blah blah

Have you noticed that whenever there is an positive twist in our lives, we are full of energy, enthusiasm, and smiles for that day. However we don't continue for long and we find ourselves getting caught with our old excuses and poor life habits. We then shout to ourselves and anyone around us that will listen saying, 'this is how we are, and this is our nature' etc. Once we start working with our old nature we cannot be enthusiastic anymore.

Each new good experience is an occasion for us to finish something of the old. We only need to take a determined thought to remove something of our old nature. We no longer need to give excuses, but make the firm promise to ourselves to transform.

We are the ONLY ones that can can change our destructive patterns. I am fed up with my own excuses as well. Time to practice what I preach!

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

No more Turning Away

People might doubt what you say, but they will always believe what you do.

One might wonder why their reputation is always in question. Opinions are not formed by mindless chatter, but by observation of patterns and actions. Funny it isn't often we make judgments often after only a few seconds of meeting someone. We tend to make excuses, and hope that the poor first impression was just a fluke. Humans repeat patterns. And as I said earlier, unless these patterns are recognized as destructive to character, one will continue to blame everyone else for how they are perceived by others.

Wake up, it's you!

Why are we often surprised in certain situations that we experience failure, inspite of putting in our best efforts. At such times just blaming our fate will not help but what we need to do is to
check within ourselves
to see if we have something to change.

A friend shared this with me yesterday.

Every great storm throughout time eventually comes to a conclusion at some point and then the clear weather shows up and the new day will be fine as long as you
learn from the past
bad weather to protect yourself better in case there ever is another storm that is going to cross your path!

If we experience failure, it means some or the other weakness of ours is definitely working at that time. We need to check and recognize our weakness and be
constantly alert.
If you seem to have the same problems all of the time, wake up, it's you!

Monday, July 21, 2008

Man up to your fears

When there is fear, there is some kind of danger, either for the self or for others. The one who fears, or the one who doesn't have the courage to accept and face situations, is not able to bring out the best form within himself. Such a person is constantly thinking of excuses and is trying to blame others for the mistakes that happen.

When I am able to take up responsibility for every situation that I am faced with, I am able to be free from worry or tension. I will then be in a position to learn and so I find progress at every step in my life. I also become an inspiration for all others too to bring about a positive change.

Sunday, July 20, 2008

David Gilmour - Marooned

I cannot stop listening to David Gilmour or early Pink Floyd. I watch this video, and realize that he is one of the best guitarists in the world. I forget this is live at times.

Saturday, July 19, 2008

I surrender, white flag

Waving the white flag

This “making peace,” mind you, is not an easy process. It’s a painful process—so painful, in fact, that most persons will do just about anything to avoid it. And that’s why, in order to be truly healed, you have to face your inner vulnerability without hiding behind blaming others. This painful process, if you stick with it courageously and faithfully, leads to the form of healing you can't get from a bottle, a pill, or anyone else.

What say you?

You didn't come here to prove your worth or to find a problem and fix it. You came to express your talents and abilities, to realize your dreams. How you interpret things plays a large part in shaping your behavior and how others treat you. Focusing on the negative dulls your energy and ability to cope. No matter how bad a situation seems, find something in it to appreciate. Ask yourself, what good could come from this? What can I learn here? The answers you get show you what to do next.

Grow up!
Life isn't about success or failure. Although both teach valuable lessons, fulfilling your potential is the essential goal. Adversity can develop strength. If a dream sours, let it go without judgment or remorse. Assume it's no longer relevant, and look for new options. Even a losing battle can be a stepping-stone to a better situation. Accepting change brings peace of mind.

Relationships are NOT perfect, WAKE UP!

Relationships are like jigsaw puzzles. All the pieces fit together to create the whole. You are not responsible for anyone else, nor are they for you. There's no guilt, no blame, no shame. Allow things to be as they are. Accept each moment as if you'd chosen it. If someone hurts you, look for what you can learn from it. Holding a grudge drains your energy. Forgiveness doesn't mean it was okay with you; it means releasing the person's power to upset you. You may never forget, but letting go of resentment is more productive. This goes double for forgiving yourself.

Move on

Only when you're at peace with yourself can you make a real contribution to anyone. Live your own truth, be honorable, and intend the best for everyone, including yourself.

The Eagle, the Lion, and the Dove a division of abutterflyloves company©

Friday, July 18, 2008

Tribute to a fallen Cubs fan

First Cubs fan to sing during the 7th-inning stretch at Wrigley dies of cancer, Dustin Eglseder performed at 2007 game against Pittsburgh

Tribune staff report

GUTTENBERG, Iowa—An eastern Iowa man who won a contest to become the first Chicago Cubs fan to sing "Take Me Out to the Ballgame" at Wrigley Field has died from bone cancer.

Dustin Eglseder, 23, died Wednesday, July 16, in his Guttenberg home.

Mr. Eglseder was chosen from thousands of entrants in a contest to sing the song during the seventh-inning stretch against Pittsburgh on Sept. 21, 2007. He played third base in high school, but he also nurtured his voice in high school chorus and chamber choir.

"He stood up in front of 41,000 people and just nailed it," Cubs broadcaster Bob Brenly said at the time.

The Cubs organization then invited Mr. Eglseder and his family to a convention in Chicago in January. He again sang the classic baseball tune, this time to thousands of fans, coaches and players at the opening ceremony.

Mr. Eglseder also was invited by Cubs TV broadcasters to their Wrigley Field booth for an interview in April.

Mr. Eglseder was diagnosed with bone cancer in the spring of 2007, and he had surgery that May to have a bone removed from his right arm. Despite the surgery at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn., and chemotherapy at University Hospitals in Iowa City, the cancer returned. His arm was amputated in November.

Cubs shortstop Ryan Theriot was one of three Cubs players who called Mr. Eglseder before his surgery and stayed in touch with him afterward.

In a statement Thursday, Cubs spokesman Peter Chase said: "The Cubs were deeply saddened Wednesday to learn of the passing of Dustin Eglseder. Our heartfelt thoughts and prayers are with Dustin's family and friends.

"Throughout his courageous battle with cancer, Dustin repeatedly told us watching the Cubs gave him great joy," Chase added.

"Dustin was an inspiration to thousands of people. He will live on in our hearts and continue to watch over and root for his Chicago Cubs."

God bless you and all your family and friends.

Complaining and Self Pity

This is one of the greatest energy wasters we have; we create our own environmental, health or psychological and relationship problems, then we complain about our state of affairs. We create cancer, mental diseases, government corruption, etc., yet we blame someone else for it, or life itself.

If something isn’t working or there’s a problem, forget guilt and self pity and instead build a strategy to work it out. Take all the energy away from victimhood, self importance, and self pity and put it directly into strategy. This brings enormous energy and personal power.

Personal responsibility means we own the messes we make, realize our mistakes and weaknesses, and ruthlessly work to eradicate our problems, with no excuses. There is no try, we either do or do not!

Try not to look at life as good and bad, yet as a living challenge to be met and grow strong from. We are here to learn from and witness this massive intelligent, mysterious universe.

Women, get a grip on your life, and men...MAN UP!

Thursday, July 17, 2008

Face it!

Inner strength comes from facing problems rather than being avoiding them.

Whenever we face problems we tend to blame situations and people and feel that these problems have come to take away our power. We begin to wish for something to happen to change the situation so that we can be free from the problem itself. But it normally seems to take a long time before the situation changes.

The only way you can be free from the problem is to create a solution for it. The situation will not change on its own. This is what brings inner strength; because you will develop power within while working on the problems at hand.

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

None is more powerful

A healer does not heal with their hands, their mind, nor with a specific technique. A healer heals with their heart. There are many healing modalities that a person can use to improve their lives and their health. None is more powerful than love.

Love is a pattern that weaves itself through all healing. It is a constant. This is because healing comes from understanding and living all that you are. And at your core, you are made of love. There is a difference between understanding that you are love and living it. When this happens you will know. There is no mistaking the experience.

Many people find that they experience this feeling (actually a way of being) for a while and then it disappears, leaving them feeling sad or disappointed. Indeed, there is a big difference in how a person experiences life from the love awareness as opposed to when the feeling subsides. This subsiding is a gift. It teaches that you have a choice between living in love and living in fear.

You already possess within you all that is needed for perfect health. It is simply a matter of peeling back the layers and having the courage to look inside. You will find inside a light so bright and beautiful that you may be frightened at first by its power and love. You may feel undeserving or uncertain about the responsibility of being this light. It may help you to realize that this is who you already are. Inside, every person has the same light and uncovering it is what healing is all about. All is love. LWD

Monday, July 14, 2008

Click to give

Usually it seems very difficult to give to others from whatever resources we have. The thought often arises in the mind that we cannot give because we are ourselves not complete or full. We find ourselves constantly trying to fill ourselves and we then have no time or thought for giving to those around us.

We have a lot of treasures within us which we can give to those around us, even if we have just a little and give to the others, we will find ourselves benefitting. For having given from whatever we have, we find that unseen treasures begin to increase within ourselves too.

Regarding the above link:

On average, over 220,000 individuals from around the world visit the site each day to click the yellow "Click Here to Give - it's FREE" button. To date, more that 200 million visitors have given more than 300 million cups of staple food. Its grassroots popularity has been recognized with Web awards in the activism category — the 2000 Cool Site of the Year Award and the People's Voice winner at the 2000 Webby Awards.

Too impatient to this you?

When there is a misunderstanding in a relationship we hardly put in any effort in order to understand the other person. We tend to become impatient and we don't listen to the other person to understand them. Because of which we start inventing things about them. This only further increases the misunderstanding.

When we have a difference of opinion with someone, we need to give some time to understand and listen to the other person. Only then will we be able to understand the other person's point of view. This practice will enable us to finish any misunderstanding we have with others and bring harmony in relationships.

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Become Angels

The more we become like angels, the more we give great gifts to the world. And the more we feel connected to this realm and others, the more ALIVE we are! The more we recogize ourselves in all people, in all life.

Stand up for the rights of angels everywhere. The downtrodden need angels most of all. Let them know they are not alone. Keep reminding them in whatever ways you can that their own angels are still alive and well, living inside of them.

If we all were a little more like angels, earth would be a little more like heaven.

An angel, like a butterfly, knows it is a great privilege to fly, even if only for a moment.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

Tied to your poor choices

Excuses and justification over our behaviors are not meant to fool anyone but ourselves. And how healthy is that? No matter how much you convince yourself, your subconscious knows the truth. We look to many vices when we feel captured by our actions and decisions.

This is the common thread I share with the people I have tried to help. We change the outlook, in order to justify our actions. What we fail to learn, is no matter how you look at fantasy, it still is fantasy.

Many people say like is easier pretending to be someone they are not. Anyone who says this never tried to live two lives. It's hell. And takes way to much energy for me. Which is why I had to put my family first in order to focus in on which path I want to follow from now on.

Some truths/ideas that have come into my mind while posting this message.

1. It is what it is, no more, no less.

2. You make a choice to continue your journey. In a way I wish my friends were ignorant and stupid. Then I can say they didn't know any better. And I wouldn't feel so obligated to help them.

3. One soul, one life to live here on earth, and we only have to answer for our actions in the end. What about how we could affect the ones close to us?

If we are always putting ourselves first... we will end up alone, tied and shackled to our poor choices.

Friday, July 11, 2008

Lighthouses, where the storms are!

Lighthouses aren't built in safe places. They choose to be where the storms are! You're not being punished. You're being taken to a difficult place to shine your light. Consider every day one where you have an opportunity to create light in a dark place. Spiritually, again, you're a light in a dark place and you wonder why you're there? It isn't always about you. Think about unenlightented people!!

You're not being punished, you're being given an opportunity. This is the work you came to do, and it's not forever. In a place you don't want to be, working with people you don't want to be with, is the work of a Lighthouse. What if you're the only light they ever see?

Thursday, July 10, 2008

Shine a light

Good Morning everyone, have a wonderful day! May our light and energies shine and radiate each other!

Every time you turn on your light it affects the energy of everyone and everything that comes in contact with your radiance.

The more you shine your light in the spirit of peace and love, the better you will feel, and the more you feel better, the more that everything and everybody around you feels and responds in kind.

Conditions and circumstances improve instantly as you radiate from the inside out, your light.

love, Kimmy

An angel, like a butterfly, knows it is a great privilege to fly, even if only for a moment.

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

What crossed my path?

These are just random thoughts that have crossed my path over the
course of the week.

Acceptance is the art of making peace with life, of leaving all our
expectations and projected ideals at the door and entering a new
world of today.

Sooner or later
Fortune or misfortune
May befall you.

When you know this,
You desire nothing,
You grieve for nothing.
Subduing the senses,
You are happy.

It is better to have less if it is with peace of mind than to have
abundant wealth but with a tormented spirit.

I honor the Spirit in you which is also in me.

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

Serenity in Brighton, Michigan

Photo taken by Alyssa Garcia

Serenity Quotes

“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amid the storm”

“The serenity of mind, gentleness, silence, self-restraint, and the purity of mind are called the austerity of thought.”

“In struggling against anguish one never produces serenity; the struggle against anguish only produces new forms of anguish.”

Monday, July 7, 2008

When people are not responsive to change

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the help we are giving. We are trying to be understanding and accepting as much as possible but others don't seem to be recognizing it. In such a situation they begin to blame you and your lack of feelings and concern towards their ignorance.

We need to check the quality of the help that we give. If there is even a trace of selfishness or if it is mixed with expectation of their change, our help will not be able to reach out and teach. So we need to make sure that our help is pure and unselfish.

Sunday, July 6, 2008

Kid Rock - All Summer Long

"All Summer Long"

It was 1989, my thoughts were short my hair was long
Caught somewhere between a boy and man
She was seventeen and she was far from in-between
It was summertime in Northern Michigan
Ahh Ahh Ahh
Ahh Ahh Ahh

Splashing through the sand bar
Talking by the campfire
It's the simple things in life, like when and where
We didn't have no internet
But man I never will forget
The way the moonlight shined upon her hair

And we were trying different things
We were smoking funny things
Making love out by the lake to our favorite song
Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking 'bout tomorrow
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet home Alabama all summer long

Catching Walleye from the dock
Watching the waves roll off the rocks
She'll forever hold a spot inside my soul
We'd blister in the sun
We couldn't wait for night to come
To hit that sand and play some rock and roll

While we were trying different things
And we were smoking funny things
Making love out by the lake to our favorite song
Sipping whiskey out the bottle, not thinking 'bout tomorrow
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Now nothing seems as strange as when the leaves began to change
Or how we thought those days would never end
Sometimes I'll hear that song and I'll start to sing along
And think man I'd love to see that girl again

[Repeat Chorus x2]

Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long
Singing Sweet Home Alabama all summer long

Unfair Comparisions

People feel inadequate at times. Such feelings can come as a result of unfair comparisons with those around us.

Sometimes the unfortunate actions and unkind comments of others can diminish our feelings of self-worth. Many adults experience the emotional turmoil that follows personal rejection or fractured relationships. Some worry that they are simply “not good enough,” a feeling that may be reinforced by carping comments from unkind and unthinking people in their lives.

Whatever the source, such feelings of personal inadequacy can prove debilitating. If we allow them to persist, the weight of the world will press down on us, and we will be held back from achieving our potential. By extension, the lives of those we love will also be affected—lives that otherwise would have been touched for good if we had felt positively about ourselves.

When things go wrong in our lives, it is easy to lose all sense of perspective. We are impatient for instant solutions, when often it is the passage of time that will allow things to work out. We ignore or downplay our strengths and abilities, just at the time we should be recognizing and applying them.

What a difference it would make if, instead, we took account of our strengths, raised our eyes off the ground, and gave ourselves credit for how far we have come and how much we have already achieved.

Saturday, July 5, 2008

On being content

There are several keys that unlock the secrets to being truly content with not only what you have, but with yourself. Here are a few ideas to get you started in your own quest to contentment.

First, to find true contentment, you need to evaluate what in your life is preventing you from being content. Is it you don't like your house, your car isn't new, you don't like your job, not enough money, over weight etc... write these things down-all of them. Be honest with yourself, it is the only way.

Next, look at each one of these things in your life and ask yourself how YOU can make a positive change with each one of the things in your life causing your discontentment. For example, if your job is causing you discontent, is there something you can do at your job to make it more fulfilling? Perhaps you can ask for a raise or change your attitude about a certain co-worker. Go through EACH thing on your list and try to at least put a partial solution with it. This will take some time for sure. Do not get discouraged. Keep with it.

Now, make another list of all the things in your life that fulfil you and give you a sense of contentment. Think of your material possessions, your accomplishments, your family, friends, etc..

Everyday try to add to your list of things that give you contentment. Eventually, you will be moving things from your discontent list over to your contentment list.

Everyday try to read, focus, and dwell on your contentment list. Try to grow that list just as large as you can. Be thankful for that list. Read it often. After a while, your discontent list will be much small and your content list will be much larger and you will indeed feel more content.

Things You’ll Need:
a journal
a pen
a few minutes each day
an open mind
a willing heart

Find more at

Many thoughts on suicide

Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.

When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. It is an imbalance of pain versus coping resources. A person considering suicide has reached that point by allowing circumstances in his life to rule over him/her.

You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

It's different than selfishness.
I think it's a weakness. It is sort of selfish in its own right, but it's weakness. The strong people live it out. The weak people give in.

In order for anybody here to condemn all suicides, you'd have to have perfect knowledge of the intention, circumstances and the person. If you do not, then you simply cannot judge. Only God can do this. HE is also outside of time. It is the heart and intention behind the act that condemns a person. There are mitigating circumstances that can save a person's soul, even in the last moments. Let's not judge.

***********AFTERTHOUGHT on suicide*******

Yes, this blog is in memory of someone that felt he had no out. I am not honoring his choice. This blog is in honor of STEPPING UP, and making changes in your life so you have better coping skills.


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When your friends deny to need for change

When I first started helping others, I felt things about people that I assumed they wanted to know about, but that wasn't always the case. People would get upset and tell me that they hadn't wanted me to go there. Health problems, marital infidelity, financial concerns - you may consider the information important for their growth, but you have no way of knowing for sure. They tell you they want to change the rut they are in, but have no intention to change real issues to make a difference in their life. Deny Deny Deny. I guess it is easier than change.

There is literally no way to pacify an angry person's anger when confronted on mistakes they made. Even on their best day they still find something to get upset about. In attempting to try to make them see the brighter side of life, they come in like a black cloud and suck the brightness out of the moment! Angry people will even spoil YOUR day with their nasty attitudes!

Your best approach at this point is not to remove yourself from the line of fire and disengage. (I know I just blogged about it a couple of days ago, but it's still weighing on my mind.) Uncomfortable as it may be, you can't discourage people from expressing their feelings, but you can help them fine-tune their communication skills so that they learn more appropriate ways of expressing them.

Thursday, July 3, 2008

Without liberty

"Without liberty there is no such thing as real happiness. There may be the contentment of the slave -- of one who is glad that he has passed the day without a beating -- one who is happy because he has had enough to eat -- but the highest possible idea of happiness is freedom." -Robert Ingersoll

Rise above and detach

Introversion helps us to remain steady and creative even during difficult situations. Introversion keeps us free from the grip of negative people and prior conditioning that is already in the mind and helps us remain focused and capable, making choices in the best way.

Even in the most negative situation, I need to practice being detached and rise above the situation and have the aim of moving forward. This gives me the understanding that there is a secret, tailor-made lesson for my own personal development, in every instance of difficulty in my life.

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

Things do not always go smoothly, coasting is a luxury that only lasts a short time. In spite of the challenges that we are faced with, we can learn from all that happens. With this learning we can experience change and intellectual growth. If not, we will only be caught up with the past as well as
lose the present.
When we find ourselves thinking about the past, or caught up with it, we need to stop feeling sorry for ourselves, stop blaming others, and redirect our thoughts towards a more positive light. We have to see if we have benefited in some way with the particular experience in your past. What could we have done differently, to have had a better outcome?
Don't ever forget we have the choice to learn from everything that happens.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

If you keep making that face

When a person is angry, he or she is no longer open to hearing another view. Anger is a way of trying to have control over getting one's way. They don't want to hear the other's feelings, explanations, lectures, or logic. When they are angry, they may have no feelings of caring about the other person - they just want to control the person or the situation.

Most people, when yelled at, attacked, accused, or blamed, get triggered into defending and explaining - hoping to change the angry person's mind. It is as if the angry person has thrown out a hook and you bite. If it is someone who knows exactly what to say to you that hooks you into engaging in the conflict.

Yet engaging is exactly what feeds the flames. To diffuse the anger, you need to disengage. Disengaging means that you completely unhook yourself from the conflict.

Disengaging does not mean that you walk away in anger, muttering under your breath about how bad and wrong the other person is and how he or she can't treat you this way. It does not mean that you rehearse over and over what you are going to say to them next time you talk. Or leave ridiculous myspace or away messages to get one more dig.

Get yourself out of range of attack without shutting down your compassion for yourself or the other person. You are helping yourself to not take the other person's behavior personally by telling yourself that this is not about you - it is about whatever is going on with the other person.

Or if not, you might end up looking like Sith Lord Palpatine.