Saturday, May 31, 2008

Perceptions



What if your limitations were all an illusion? What if you were being held back, not by your circumstances, but by your mind?

In many ways the world you see is of your own making. The obstacles you perceive may not really be there if you could get your mind beyond them. The limitations against which you struggle could be gone the instant you change your viewpoint.

What may appear to be cold, hard, reality could melt away and be transformed by the power of your own perceptions.

What if you could change the world and didn't know it? What if you suddenly figured it out? Look beyond the obvious. Look beyond your assumptions. Step outside the window of your perceptions and marvel at the vastness of possibility.

Friday, May 30, 2008

Do you learn from mistakes?

Criticism can be taken in the right way in any stage of self-respect. This will give me the ability to look within when something goes wrong. Instead of justifying mistakes there will be the ability to learn from them and improve.

When someone criticizes me, I need to remind myself that I have something to learn from it. Let me ask myself if there is at least a small aspect that I could learn from and incorporate in my life. Let me take this aspect and leave the rest.

Thursday, May 29, 2008

Lose the excuses

We find that whenever there is an occasion, we are full of zeal and enthusiasm for that day. However this doesn't continue for long and we find ourselves getting caught with our old nature. We then give the excuse to ourselves saying, 'this is how I am, and this is my nature' etc. Once we start working with our old nature we cannot be enthusiastic anymore.

Each new festival is an occasion for us to finish something of the old. We only need to take a determined thought to remove something of our old nature. We no longer need to give excuses, but make the firm promise to ourselves to transform. Our zeal and enthusiasm will then never lessen and we will continue to celebrate with constant enthusiasm.

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

Journey



We do not receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves
after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.
- Marcel Proust

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Teach your Children Well!

The most important thing that you can teach your children is that Well-being abounds. And that Well-being is naturally flowing to them. And that if they will relax and reach for thoughts that feel good, and do their best to appreciate, then they will be less likely to keep the Well-being away, and more likely to allow it to flow into their experience. Teach them the art of allowing.

Excerpted from a workshop in Milwaukee, WI on Wednesday, July 5th, 2000

All Is Well - ©1997-2008 Abraham-Hicks Publications

Monday, May 26, 2008

Free yourselves

When faced with a negative situation, usually the mind gets affected. Lot of questions arise in the mind that don't allow us to be stable at that time. It is in our hands to work at transforming the situation we don't make use of this opportunity but only end up adding to the negativity.

In a negative situation, it is necessary for us to maintain our own inner stability. We need to free ourselves from wasteful thoughts. Then the negativity in the situation will finish, first in our mind and then in the situation itself. Our own internal stability will help in finishing the influence of the external situation.

Sunday, May 25, 2008

My pride in proving a point.

When someone challenges the truth of what I am saying I generally tend to argue and prove my point in order to prove myself right. When I argue in this way, it only shows my own stubbornness and doesn't help in anyway to reveal the truth. Where silence doesn't help in revealing the truth, argument never will because the other person is not in a position to listen to me at that moment.

I need to realize the fact that when the other person is not able to recognize the truth, my arguing will not help in anyway. When the truth is with us I need not argue but I only need to wait for the right opportunity to tell what I have to say. When I try to tell when the other person is not in a position to listen to me, it only reveals my lack of flexibility.

Saturday, May 24, 2008

abutterflyloves

My eyes open upon a beautiful day
Full of hope, memories and desire
You are in my arms holding my soul
Enticing me into the fire
And for moments so true I am whole

I love you with a passion
I knew not I owned
With each minute that drifts
I love thee as a butterfly loves
the wind beneath its wings
as the sunshine owns the day

Together we belong
within each others love
My soul seeks
with eyes ever seeing

-abutterflyloves

Faith in others enables them to be powerful

Faith in others is usually mistaken for blind faith - observing helplessly only hoping for the best in our heart. We then consciously don't do anything but just hope for the best. In such a situation we subtly experience fear or tension. But this is not true faith nor is the outcome usually right.

Faith in others means to remain alert to what is going on and then to fill the other person with the strength of our faith to such an extent that they feel able to do whatever needs to be done. Our faith will fill them with confidence and they will be able to give their best to the task.

Friday, May 23, 2008

Accept Advice

The one who rejects advice rejects the progress of the self. To accept advice means to take the chance for whatever benefit that comes my way.

Affirmation:

When someone corrects me or gives me an advice or suggestion, if I accept it in the right spirit, I'll constantly learn from it. This will enable me to experience constant progress. I am also naturally able to give regard to everyone I come into contact with and remain in constant happiness.

Thursday, May 22, 2008

True help is to appreciate the efforts of each one to improve themselves

Not realizing that all are making effort to bring improvement in themselves at their own level, we tend to point out people's mistakes only to prove them wrong. It is by proving them wrong that we want to prove ourselves right. This doesn't help others in anyway to bring a change in them.

We need to focus more on the potential and unique specialities of those around us, rather than on their faults. This will help us to appreciate the effort that each one is making to bring improvement in himself. Then we find that even the corrections we give are effective, as they are more for the benefit of the other person.

This is the real help we can give to others.

Wednesday, May 21, 2008

And the winner is...

David Cook



(taken from TvFan.com)

If there was a knockout tonight, it was the culmination of David Cook's season long dominance of the competition. He put his heart and soul into every performance and I can't thank him enough for the hours of enjoyment and excitement he's given me. There's only one thing I could do for him to show my appreciation, so that's why for the first time in my life I spent hours voting for a friggin reality show.

I'm sure right now David Cook thinks he lost American Idol. I hope tomorrow night he learns that his fans have come through for him and that being the nicest and most sincere contestant, as well as the most talented, brave and original, actually means something. In many ways, that would be a more fitting ending to this saga than if he had been the clear winner tonight.

Best of luck, David Cook. You're quite a man, and I for one thank you for everything. Oh yeah...and you're really hot :)

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

Bring about change first

Being a well wisher just doesn't mean wishing others well. It also means having good wishes for the self and having the pure desire to bring about a change for the better in the self. So whatever the kind of situations, instead of just judging others and what they need to change, the one who is a well-wisher constantly brings about transformation in the self.

For having worked on myself under all circumstances and having used every situation as a chance for self-progress, I constantly enjoy every thing that comes my way. I have no expectations, but just think of benefit for others and myself. I then never find any situation to be an obstacle, but use it as a step for progress.

Sunday, May 18, 2008

Confidence and Acceptance

When things seem to be going wrong again and again we begin to get upset and curse our fate. Mentally we seem to accept our defeat and when we start something new, we are not always able to be confident as there is an underlying fear of failing. When there is fear, it will be difficult for us to succeed as we are not able to do things to the best of our ability.

We need to be alert under all circumstances. This will help us to recognize negativity as soon as it comes up. Instead of making our mind negative when things go wrong, we need to work at increasing our faith that things will work out fine. Then we will also be able to give our best to the task with confidence. And we will be successful in whatever we take up.

Leave it behind

Many times the past keeps coming back again and again in the mind, influencing the present too. The present is lost in thinking about the past.

To be free from the influence of the past it is important to have a powerful consciousness of the present. Because there is the understanding that it is gone. Also there is no worry about the future. When I am able to learn to live in the present I am able to discover how full it is of peaceful moments.

Saturday, May 17, 2008

Master Healer?

To be a master means to use the right power at the right time.

To be a master means to be aware of the internal qualities that one has. Also it is the ability to use these qualities as and when required. That means to be able to give an order and put into use in a second whatever internal power or virtue that is required at that time. If there is an awareness of the positive quality, and not the ability to put it into use wit hin a second, it would not be called total mastery.

When I am a master I am able to have an experience of having control over whatever is happening around me. Even if something comes up suddenly, I still am able to feel the control over the situation and make the best out of it. I neither feel helpless nor blame others for what is happening.

Friday, May 16, 2008

Change in others when we change




When there is some misunderstanding, we normally want to change
others, trying to bring them to our way of thinking. We usually
can't understand why they are not able to understand our way of
thinking when we seem to be right. We are usually not able to
succeed in this and we end up feeling frustrated.

Instead of trying to force people to change their way of thinking,
which is not going to work any way, we need to concentrate instead
on our own change process. As long as we are working on ourselves
we will be able to be sweet to those around too. Our own change
process inspires others also to work on themselves.

Thursday, May 15, 2008

Victory for Megan!



Megan Taylor Meier.. sweet angel!


Lori Drew Indicted! (May 15, 2008)
By LINDA DEUTSCH, AP Special Correspondent



A Missouri woman was indicted Thursday for her alleged role in perpetrating a hoax on the online social network MySpace against a 13-year-old neighbor who committed suicide.

Lori Drew of suburban St. Louis, who allegedly helped create a MySpace account in the name of someone who didn't exist to convince Megan Meier she was chatting with a 16-year-old boy named Josh Evans, was charged with conspiracy and fraudulently gaining access to someone else's computer.

Megan hanged herself at home in October 2006, allegedly after receiving a dozen or more cruel messages, including one stating the world would be better off without her.

Salvador Hernandez, assistant agent in charge of the Los Angeles FBI office, called the case heart-rending.

"The Internet is a world unto itself. People must know how far they can go before they must stop. They exploited a young girl's weaknesses," Hernandez said. "Whether the defendant could have foreseen the results, she's responsible for her actions."

Drew was charged with one count of conspiracy and three counts of accessing protected computers without authorization to get information used to inflict emotional distress on the girl.

Drew has denied creating the account or sending messages to Megan.

Her attorney, Jim Briscoe, did not immediately return messages seeking comment on Thursday.

A man who opened the door at the Drew family home in Dardenne Prairie, Mo., on Thursday said the family had no comment.

Megan's mother, Tina Meier, told The Associated Press she believed media reports and public outrage helped move the case forward for prosecution.

"I'm thrilled that this woman is going to face charges that she has needed to face since the day we found out what was going on, and since the day she decided to be a part of this entire ridiculous stunt," she said.

Megan's father, Ron Meier, 38, said he began to cry "tears of joy" when he heard of the indictment. The parents are now separated, which Tina Meier has said stemmed from the circumstances of their daughter's death.

Tina Meier has acknowledged Megan was too young to have a MySpace account under the Web site's guidelines, but she said she had been able to closely monitor the account. Meier's family has also acknowledged that Megan was also sending mean messages before her death.

Megan was being treated for attention deficit disorder and depression, her family has said. Meier has said Drew knew Megan was on medication.

MySpace issued a statement saying it "does not tolerate cyberbullying" and was cooperating fully with the U.S. attorney.

U.S. Attorney Thomas P. O'Brien said this was the first time the federal statute on accessing protected computers has been used in a social-networking case. It has been used in the past to address hacking.

"This was a tragedy that did not have to happen," O'Brien said at a Los Angeles press conference.

Both the girl and MySpace are named as victims in the case, he said.

MySpace is a subsidiary of Beverly Hills-based Fox Interactive Media Inc., which is owned by News Corp. The indictment noted that MySpace computer servers are located in Los Angeles County.

Due to juvenile privacy rules, the U.S. attorney's office said, the indictment refers to the girl as M.T.M.

FBI agents in St. Louis and Los Angeles investigated the case, Hernandez said.

Each of the four counts carries a maximum possible penalty of five years in prison.

Drew will be arraigned in St. Louis and then moved to Los Angeles for trial.

The indictment says MySpace members agree to abide by terms of service that include, among other things, not promoting information they know to be false or misleading; soliciting personal information from anyone under age 18 and not using information gathered from the Web site to "harass, abuse or harm other people."

Drew and others who were not named conspired to violate the service terms from about September 2006 to mid-October that year, according to the indictment. It alleges they registered as a MySpace member under a phony name and used the account to obtain information on the girl.

Drew and her coconspirators "used the information obtained over the MySpace computer system to torment, harass, humiliate, and embarrass the juvenile MySpace member," the indictment charged.

The indictment contends they committed or aided in a dozen "overt acts" that were illegal, including using a photograph of a boy that was posted without his knowledge or permission.

They used "Josh" to flirt with Megan, telling her she was "sexi," the indictment charged.

Around Oct., 7, 2006, Megan was told "Josh" was moving away, prompting the girl to write: "aww sexi josh ur so sweet if u moved back u could see me up close and personal lol."

Several days later, "Josh" urged the girl to call and added: "i love you so much."

But on or about Oct. 16, "Josh" wrote to the girl and told her "in substance, that the world would be a better place without M.T.M. in it," according to the indictment.

The girl hanged herself the same day, and Drew and the others deleted the information in the account, the indictment said.

Last month, an employee of Drew, 19-year-old Ashley Grills, told ABC's "Good Morning America" she created the false MySpace profile but Drew wrote some of the messages to Megan.

Grills said Drew suggested talking to Megan via the Internet to find out what Megan was saying about Drew's daughter, who was a former friend.

Grills also said she wrote the message to Megan about the world being a better place without her. The message was supposed to end the online relationship with "Josh" because Grills felt the joke had gone too far.

"I was trying to get her angry so she would leave him alone and I could get rid of the whole MySpace," Grills told the morning show.

Megan's death was investigated by Missouri authorities, but no state charges were filed because no laws appeared to apply to the case.

Please visit: http://www.myspace.com/megan_meier_our_angel



Please visit: http://www.meganmeierfoundation.org

The one who is cool and calm can make accurate decisions

When something goes wrong the natural consequence is of internal
disturbance, of chaos within. The mind begins to race and is
filled with a lot of unnecessary thoughts. It seems very difficult
to remain cool at that time. Being in such a state of mind we find
it very difficult to make the right decisions.

Even in a chaotic situation, it is important to keep the mind
peaceful and calm. Calmness means to keep it focused and
self-directed. This we can do by practicing to look within,
checking ourselves and moving forward. Then our decisions will
also be accurate and there will be no further confusion in our mind.

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Peace - Happy Birthday Alyssa




We are peaceful, but external situations pull us away from our peace if we let them. When there is not a very positive situation that we are confronted with, we need to save ourselves from the pull of the outside situation and rely on the peace within.

Every morning let me practice being a peaceful being, who is totally in charge of myself. When difficult situations do come I will be able to rely more on my internal peace instead of getting carried away by the external situations.

Monday, May 12, 2008

Have I mentioned I am a Christian?

Get to the Root

When a problem comes up we usually try to work at removing the problem at hand by trying various methods based on the understanding we have. We don't go deep into the actual cause of the problem and so find it repeating again and again. Unless we understand the root cause of the problem we will not be able to get rid of it fully.

The trick to problem solving is to go to the root, i.e. to find the actual cause. When we find and work at removing the actual cause of the problem we will never find it repeating. For example, if the actual problem might be inability to finish everything in time, the cause behind might not be lack of sufficient time, but my own
carelessness.

Sunday, May 11, 2008

Mom's five lessons to teach her children

Be patient, thoughtful and understanding. Anyone can be rude, but it takes real strength to be kind and polite.

Be persistent. Enduring strength does not come in an instant, but is steadily built over time.

Get in the habit of taking action. The strongest people are those who act while others only talk or wish.

Be humble. Put your focus on doing, rather than worrying about getting credit.

Be joyful. When you enjoy what you're doing, you are far more effective.

Saturday, May 10, 2008

One moment after another



Every moment is a drop of light or darkness, happiness or sadness,
integrity or deceit, togetherness or isolation.

Every moment is your own perception of who you are, what is going on and how you want to continue.

Every moment is yours to savor or reject, hold dear or ignore,
remain awake or go to sleep, cherish or get through.

Every moment presents you with choices and opportunities
for growth or stagnation.

Every moment builds upon another and another and another
until you have lived your life....


One moment after another.

Friday, May 9, 2008

Criticism

When we make a contribution in the form of an advice or a
suggestion, we usually do it with confidence. That means we are
sure of ourselves and are a master. But the problem usually comes
when people don't accept our suggestion. We are, then, not able to
accept their decision or criticism.

We need to have the perfect balance of being a master and a child.
It means that along with being a master while giving the
suggestions we need the consciousness of a child while it is being
heard. That means we are totally ready to accept the
comments/criticism that we might be faced with.

Thursday, May 8, 2008

Difficulties and challenges bring out our hidden treasures

When we are faced with challenges, we usually experience that there are not sufficient resources or we are not able to make use of our resources for best results. I am successful only when I am content and make them content whoever comes in front of me.

When I learn the art of being stable in the most negative situations, I know how to use the treasures that are hidden within me. My mind is no longer disturbed with waste or negative thoughts and I find it easy to face and learn from each and every situation.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008

True effort brings success

Usually we seem to put in good effort to achieve our goal. But sometimes we also get caught in blaming others and considering them the cause of our distress and lack of success. This is carelessness which only makes us feel disheartened.

Even during the midst of total chaos or difficult situations, we need to remain responsible for every thought, word and action of ours. To act from such an awareness is proof that we are making right efforts and this ensures our success.

Monday, May 5, 2008

Free from influence means to make use of one's potential

When we see others' specialties we think we are getting inspired by
them but sometimes we also get influenced by them. To get
influenced means to be dependent or to be in their control. When we
do this we are not able to recognise and experience our own true
self.

Instead of only looking at others' specialties we also need to
practice seeing our own specialties too. The more we recognise our
own specilaities we will not only be able to work with them but we
will also be able to take the right inspiration from others'
specialties too.

Sunday, May 4, 2008

Symptoms of inner peace

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace.

Some signs to look for:


  • A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experiences.
  • An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.
  • A loss of interest in judging other people.
  • A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
  • A loss of interest in conflict.
  • A loss of the ability to worry. (This is a very serious symptom.)
  • Frequent, overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
  • Contented feelings of connectedness with others and nature.
  • Frequent attacks of smiling.
  • An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than make them happen.
  • An increased susceptibility to the love offered by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.

Be Forewarned!!! If you have all or even most of the above symptoms, please be advised that your condition may be too far advanced to turn back. If you are exposed to anyone exhibiting several of these symptoms, remain exposed at your own risk. This condition of inner peace is likely well into its infectious stage.

Help me control

It is greater to control the desires arising in your mind rather than controlling the desires available in front of you.

yes...I know. I am struggling with this. A dirty mind is a horrible thing to waste.

The way you expect others not to harm, do not think of harming others

And this is what changed me. I do not want to hurt the ones I love. Period. I have to be able to control my fantasy world. Which is difficult since fantasy life has been more active than my real one.

grrrrr

Saturday, May 3, 2008

Embrace the truth

The truth shines a bright light on life, so you can clearly see the way to go. Success, achievement, happiness, joy, fellowship, and fulfillment, thrive in the warm and nurturing light of the truth.

Honesty is the most direct path to wherever you want to go. Truth and honesty are often difficult, yet never more difficult, in the end, than deceit. To think otherwise, is to deceive even yourself. Hiding in the shadows of falsehood, makes it impossible to move forward.

The truth is moral and ethical. Live in the bright, empowering light. Embrace the truth.

Friday, May 2, 2008

Our correction is effective when we become an example.

When we find ourselves correcting others, sometimes we do find
ourselves in situations where someone is not listening to us. Even
if the correction is given with love it does not seem to work. So
we find ourselves at a loss as to how to make the other person
understand.

In order to make our words effective, we need to apply them in our
own life. When we first apply it in our life, we will become an
example for others around us. Our words would then surely have an
impact on others.

Then again..even then, others will not take the example, but only call it luck.

Thursday, May 1, 2008

HAVE YOU EVER REALLY LOVED A WOMAN? (Bryan Adams)

To really love a woman
To understand her
You gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought
See every dream
And give her wings when she wants to fly

And when you find yourself
Lying helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman

When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s really wanted
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s the one
She needs somebody
To tell her that it’s gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman

To really love a woman
Let her hold you
Do you know how she needs to be touched ?
You gotta breath her
Really taste her
To you can feel her in your blood
Then when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
You know you really love a woman

When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s really wanted
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s the one
She needs somebody
To tell her that you’ll always be together
So tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman

You got to give her some faith
Hold her tight
A little tenderness
You gotta treat her right
She’ll be there for you
Taking good care of you
You really gotta love your woman

And when you find yourself
Lying helpless in her arms
You know you really love a woman

When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s really wanted
When you love a woman
You tell her that she’s the one
She needs somebody
To tell her that it’s gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman
Just tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman
Just tell me have you ever really
Really really ever loved a woman.