Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Save the Marriage..

People don't talk about saving the marriage, as quick as they talk about divorce.

Marriage is a beautiful thing. It is the pinnacle of human love: a man promising to love a woman through thick or thin, good or bad, no matter what. Through being content with each other or being angry at each other, the bond of love remains the same. It causes the two to put themselves aside and think of the good of the other; the focus isn't on being two, but rather on being one.

Marriage is also linked to the continuation of society. The existence of society is continued through reproduction. The traditions, culture, beliefs, values and ways of a society are passed on through the family from parents to children.

Children have had one or both parents leave them. When pride and self-interest aren't set aside, we see terrible things happen. Every case is different. I can't say what motivates each situation. Whether the cause is greed, a lack of self-control, jealousy, mental illness, fear or failure of character, the outcome is still the same: someone gets hurt, usually the children. It's not right.

My parents loved each other very much. I witnessed a man caring for his wife deeply, putting his desires aside for her well-being. I witnessed a woman loving her husband, looking after and attending to his needs and well-being. And as one unit, one relationship, they loved my sister and me and sacrificed their earthly desires for our physical, spiritual and emotional well-being.


  1. I think it's a great idea to try to save a marriage first, but both people need to want to save the marriage or else you're just wasting your time.

  2. I am very glad that you did have that experience growing up.

    However there are different view points that you have not considered.

    My home was a very abusive home. My father was physically abusive to me and my mother.

    Our lives were a living hell. In my case I was a much happier child after they finally divorced.

    Both of them became more happy and I was able to move forward with them and establish a positive relationship my father.

    This would not have been so if they had remained married. Staying together mainly for the children is not always the right option.

    If you are not married to the man that God has destined you to be with then divorce usually is the best option.

    I believe in destiny. You are very fortunate that your parents found the person that God had destined for them to be with forever the first go round.

    That is not always the case. Just another view point from a home where divorce was the best option all the way around!!:-)

  3. Excellent point, not all people are with their soul mate. I have been with my husband since we were 16...we are 36 now...I cannot imagine life without him.