Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Save the Marriage..
People don't talk about saving the marriage, as quick as they talk about divorce.
Marriage is a beautiful thing. It is the pinnacle of human love: a man promising to love a woman through thick or thin, good or bad, no matter what. Through being content with each other or being angry at each other, the bond of love remains the same. It causes the two to put themselves aside and think of the good of the other; the focus isn't on being two, but rather on being one.
Marriage is also linked to the continuation of society. The existence of society is continued through reproduction. The traditions, culture, beliefs, values and ways of a society are passed on through the family from parents to children.
Children have had one or both parents leave them. When pride and self-interest aren't set aside, we see terrible things happen. Every case is different. I can't say what motivates each situation. Whether the cause is greed, a lack of self-control, jealousy, mental illness, fear or failure of character, the outcome is still the same: someone gets hurt, usually the children. It's not right.
My parents loved each other very much. I witnessed a man caring for his wife deeply, putting his desires aside for her well-being. I witnessed a woman loving her husband, looking after and attending to his needs and well-being. And as one unit, one relationship, they loved my sister and me and sacrificed their earthly desires for our physical, spiritual and emotional well-being.