Tuesday, August 12, 2008

On becoming the example

When we watch our children start a new journey, or life challenge, they look for role models or inspiration. We usually never think of being an inspiration for them. Without guidance, they begin to lose enthusiasm to the extent that they might give up what they started.

For whatever we do, we need to have the aim of becoming an example, an inspiration for others. The more we have this in our mind, our children will never be discouraged by others' actions. Instead we will be able to perform each action with such enthusiasm and such perfection that we becomes an inspiration for our children, family and others.


  1. children are little sponges of knowledge so your words are wise

  2. You ask elsewhere: "How do people judge you?" And you answer: BY OUR ACTIONS."

    That's right.

    To be inspired is to be fired up. The question is: By what? By whom?

    Yet "whom" is an imperfect word, for what it brings to mind in the first instance is a kind of singularity that is too confined and, as an anchor of sorts, too confining. The only safe "whom" is a plural "whom." But we, as individualities, are a part of that -- or a part of it as well.

    That's what you had in mind I think. And that's the main story.

    As for the question "By what?", the essential answer remains, in your own words: BY OUR ACTIONS.

    But any "thick" answer we attempt returns us to the base, to the realization, that the "what" can be many things, and can never be the one size that fits all. It may be a moment that makes us sit up; or an event that rewires the brain by refreshing the pictures in the mind.

    In a community enriched by social capital, and to anyone over five or six or seven years -- I hit "t" for tears for a moment there, but caught myself (so, no oops) -- there are many points and instances of light besides mother or father or older sibling. As they say, "it takes a village."

    But the village is more than the sum of the people, for it has many parts, and fuses nurture and nature in ways we typically strive to understand only in half-measures.

    And it sometimes takes, yes, tears -- to come upon the true path to our destiny. And not the tears of joy.

  3. I avoid and put off things a lot. Even when I am doing it I know it will come back to get me later. But later always seems so long away at the time.