Monday, June 30, 2008

To the Drama queens, Destroy the Drama Llama

Why I Shouldn't Be An Optimist

Not everyone can handle my overbearing optimism in the face of adversity. Even if I had no survival story, people get worked up, frustrated, and irritated at the fact that I'm prancing around like I cured world hunger. And so what if I did? There are still people dieing for diamonds -- get back to work.

When I'm overly optimistic, I can't possibly cope with the realistic people in my life. They're talking about real things like drama and bs. I want to talk about hearts and butterflies, and frankly... nobody else cares.

Do I really want to walk around introducing myself to people when my head looks like a smiley face with a halo? Do I think people will take me seriously? Do I even want to keep making that happy face... you know, it could get stuck that way. ROFL!

It's because the pessimist does not expect great things to happen, so anything above average that occurs during their day-to-day feels like a huge victory. Being an optimist deprives you of this satisfaction.

Damn..and I thought being positive had it's advantages. Poor me.

(don't worry, I am giggling, and still very positive)

Sunday, June 29, 2008

The Silent Treatment

The Silent Treatment - the other end of a chilly silence

Many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. It is a pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.

No one deserves to be subjected to this. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else's pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way.

Don't feel guilty for failing as a mind reader. You can do your best to understand why this person clams up. But to expect you to figure things out on your own is unrealistic and exhibits poor communication skills on their part. If he or she keeps giving you the silent treatment every time your relationship hits a bump in the road, then maybe the relationship is better off silent.

The silent treatment is a form of control, which in turn is a form of abuse. Don't buy into it!

Saturday, June 28, 2008

What is a Soulmate?

Soulmates are our soul family, the ones we do have many lifetimes and experiences with, who help us grow and evolve, create and dissipate karma. According to ancient wisdom, when the soul is "born" or descended from Source, it is created in a group. The souls in this group are our soulmates, ones who are very like us in frequency makeup. Then each of these souls is split into two, creating the twins.

A soulmate is someone you are close to at a soul level, and with whom you have had many shared experiences in different lifetimes, in various kinds of relationships; siblings, parent-child, best friend, as well as romantic relationships. There is a deep love for each other, and a spiritual bond that sets them apart from the superficiality of most other people in your life. Conversations are generally deep, about personal growth and service to make the world a better place. We can have many soulmates in our lives, and they come to us to help us grow spiritually.

Twin Flame reunions are the most fulfilling relationships we can enter into as humans, on all levels. However, twin flame couples have been extremely rare on the planet, and for good reasons. Despite this, we are finding that more and more twins are finding each other now, because of the acceleration of spiritual transformation and opportunities for soul evolution we are all experiencing.

However, many of these attempts at reunion are unsuccessful because the individual people are not quite ready for the intensity of a twin flame union. It is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level, not as much in the physical or even emotional bodies. This doesn't mean that there isn't a good attraction at those levels as well, but the strongest attraction is of spirit. This is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a twin soul. Many people think they have met their twin because the attraction is so intense, but it is a karmic attraction, one of need or bodily desire rather than the Divine Love of twins.

When twins reunite, both of them experience an acceleration of their spiritual growth and awakening. Yet, there is a closeness and similarities of spirit that are almost uncanny, noticed in many ways, such as looking back at yourself when you look at your mate, and a remembering of the distant past when you first split up.

Their connection is telepathic, and hugging each other is like coming home for nourishment.

Friday, June 27, 2008

Balance of flexibility and discipline

It is of course necessary to be flexible but if we are so flexible that others take advantage of us it is not right. So we need to have a balance of flexibility and discipline i.e., to be flexible within the rules and code of conduct.

It is necessary to take care that the flexible nature within us doesn't waste our time or other resources. We have to be able to say no if the situation demands. But whatever we say has to be told with love, which comes when our nature is that of flexibility.

Thursday, June 26, 2008

I Just Neutered the Cat. Now He's a Liberal.

At the right time

Sometimes when setting a goal, we tend to get carried away with the result. We become so result-oriented that we begin to expect the fruit of what we have done immediately. Without the recognition of the fact that the result might take time to come, we begin to get caught up with our own expectations. This creates a lot of toil in our heart and mind and we might even give up what we are doing. Or just make oursevles and the people around us miserable.

When we strive for something, we must develop faith that whatever has to happen will happen
at the right time
. We don't have to get carried away with immediate results but have to wait patiently knowing that the fruits of our actions will ripen at their own time. With peace this is possible and we will be able to free ourselves from negativity and toil.

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

How we raise them

Think of our children that we are giving some kind of help or support. Check if we are helping in such a way to make them independent or is our help making them dependent on us.

We should remind ourselves that our aim in helping is to make people independent and strong in such a way that they are able to support others too. Our help should never make people weak.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

When I let go of who I was, I become what I strive to be

The path to self guided change is long and difficult.
Our lives in this world are a journey through which we discover our true soul.

I do not know each turn on your road just as you do not know mine.
In the end we must all become our own teacher

It is the task of each soul on earth to find their own way to their own truth. To achieve this we look deep within ourselves to find the root of our pain. Only then can we begin to eliminate the cause of our suffering

The world you think you know is only an illusion.
A Mirror of the true world which only exists within us.

All the most wonderful things are impossible however
There is NO LIMIT to what you can do so long as you follow your heart

Some steps you may take

  • Accept the reality of our situation (Where we are at now, where are we going)
  • Identify the root causes (your root issues, not pointing fingers at others)
  • Let go of all attachments (you can’t take it with you)
  • Set our intention (is the goal more attachment?)
  • Give Thanks (we forget what we should be grateful for)
  • Accept the gift of transformation /Healing (allow yourself to give in to self guided change )

Monday, June 23, 2008

Instead of blaming others

Sometimes we do find ourselves in situations where others are not responding to the love we are giving. We are trying to be understanding and accepting as much as possible but others don't seem to be recognising it. In such a situation we begin to blame others and their lack of feelings and concern.

Instead of blaming others when our love and concern is not being reciprocated, we need to check the quality of the love that we give. If there is even a trace of selfishness or if it is mixed with expectations, our love will not be able to reach out and touch the hearts of others. So we need to make sure that our love is pure and unselfish.

More words than necessary

Sometimes when something only needs a few words to explain, we continue to speak and expand on it for a long time. We actually use more words than necessary thinking we are clarifying things. We give the justification to ourselves that it is necessary or the other person does not understand. These words sometimes disturb the other person and spoil our relationships too.

We constantly need to pay attention to the words that we speak. We need to check if we are using any more words than we actually need to. When we remind ourselves of a simple slogan, "speak less, speak softly and speak sweetly", our words will never be those that disturb others.

Sunday, June 22, 2008

The usual reaction...Guilt!

When we make a mistake, the usual reaction is to feel guilty about it. We will only be caught up in the past and not be able to make full use of the present. So it is important to be light yet not be careless.

When I do something wrong, all I have to do is to
find out the weakness
that working behind my mistake. Then I will be able to learn from it. When I do this I will be able to forgive myself and use every incident that happens as a gift for my progress. I will then never be stuck, but will be able to move forward with lightness.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Wings of Zeal

When we have the wings of zeal and enthusiasm, we can fly no matter what the situations are. There will then be no boredom or tiredness in our lives.

I must be able to be flying in all situations with the wings of zeal and enthusiasm. Enthusiasm makes the bigger obstacle look like a very tiny one. It makes even a storm to be like a gift and makes us enjoy each situation like a game. And when we have the awareness that there is nothing that is difficult, we can surely achieve.

Friday, June 20, 2008

If you are out of control

Usually there is a tendency to leave things to destiny. When something goes wrong, we blame fate for it. Then we feel the situation to be totally out of our control, which
prevents us from taking responsibility for our own life
. And we will not be able to work in any way for bringing about a change and improving the situation.

Instead of blaming fate for whatever is happening, we need to take up responsibility for creating our own fortune for the future.
When we have faith in ourselves
we will take up responsibility for our own life. We will then be able to work at making our each thought beneficial, contributing to our success, making a better future for ourselves.

Thursday, June 19, 2008

Dispel the Darkness

When we come across someone who is faced with a difficult situation because of which she is worrying, we too usually tend to think about it. Instead of helping the other person to be free from worrying, we too begin to worry. This doesn't help either of us in anyway but only adds to the negativity of the situation.

We need to develop such benevolent feelings for the one who is going through the situation that the power of our positive feelings will spread to them too. It will act like the light of the lamp, which helps to dispel the darkness around. Only when there is
in the mind will they be able to think of some solution.

Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Money and things can make a person happy temporarily

I have to say that I firmly believe people in today's society are too materialistic. People care less and less about each other, and more and more about what they own and what they want. It's sad if you think about it really. 30 years ago people didn't care what they wore, what car they drove, or what new things they owned - they cared about each other. People just lived life and would be friends with anyone, no matter what that person owned. People today define themselves (and their social status) on materialistic ideas.

Being materialistic is putting too much importance on material things, not just wanting them. I won't give up who I am for money or something material. Material success is a want, not a necessity. Money and things can make a person happy temporarily, but when the money is spent or the fun of the object wears off, the person is stuck where they started- unhappy. For some people, having money and buying things is like a fix. It's temporary, and never enough.

There was a time when candy or a soda was a rare treat for children. Children are now able to get “candy” at every corner at any time. Materialism is instilled in us at a young age. The generations to come will be worse than we are.

I know that when the day is done; I have lived that day to the best of my ability, with a strong moral compass to guide my decisions every day.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Compare you against me...not

Sometimes, there is a tendency to compare ourselves with others and find ourselves lacking in some way. This creates unhappiness in us and we are not able to remain content. Comparing ourselves with others or having expectations makes us miss out on perceiving the attainments we have in our life. And we are not able to experience

Instead of looking at what we don't have, which is usually the practice, we need to make effort to see what we have attained or what we are attaining. Once we make this practice, we will be able to look at the positive aspect in our life, which will enable us to remain content under all circumstances, i.e., in both positive and
negative situations.

Monday, June 16, 2008

Cutting the ties on a Toxic relationship

We aren't meant to be sucking up other people's energy. We also don't want to be allowing any psychic vampires sucking up ours.

The world is full of unhealthy relationships. In these relationships, individuals cling to one another allowing unhealthy attachments to occur between them. Seldom is the sharing done equally. Couples that share one life source ordinarily create a relationship in which one individual becomes weaker, the other stronger. The weakened person feels collapsed because of giving away his/her life source. The stronger person feels great for a time, but his/her appetite may very well increase, craving more and more of the shared energy.

There are different types of situations we face in life that are difficult. Ending relationships ranks pretty high up in the "tough stuff" category. It doesn't matter if you were the person who walked away or if someone else left you, a loss is felt either way. It is especially painful if a relationship ends without closure. Unfortunately, often times when people "breakup" what they don't realize is that they may very well still have “emotional” strings attached.

Visualize a walking bridge in your mind. Imagine yourself standing on the far end of this bridge. Now imagine the person you are wanting to cut strings with is standing on the opposite end of the bridge. When you feel ready to energetically connect with the other person begin walking slowly to the middle of the bridge. Allow the other person to walk toward you, meeting you half way. Once you are in eye contact with one another you may begin communicating with an inner dialog. Tell the person what your feelings are. This is not a time to be angry or be holding onto grudges - you are releasing the ties. Tell the person that you are sorry for all of the things you said or did that hurt him/her. Tell him/her that you are forgiving him/her for all the hurtful things that were said or done in your relationship. Say your good-byes, wishing each other well in your separateness. Turn around and walk off the bridge.

Note: It is okay if the other person remains on the bridge as they may not be as ready to be disconnected from you as you are and it may take some adjusting on his/her part to get used to being outside of your energy.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Shall I paint?

Light Thoughts by Marlana

I am the artist of my own life. I paint with the colors of each moment.

I choose the colors of yesterday to blend with tomorrow's hues.
Will my tomorrows be brighter because of my yesterdays?

Today is the question. Shall I paint them with glorious yellows greens or blues...
or deep browns, grays and blacks?

Perhaps I will simply sit with my moment paint brush and
watch the page in its beautiful blankness.

I am the artist of my life.

Friday, June 13, 2008

Are you humble? Is this you..or not?

(taken from wiki-how)

How to be Humble

Being humble doesn't mean you can't feel good about yourself. Self-esteem is not the same as pride. Both come from a recognition of your own talents and qualities, but pride--the kind of pride that leans toward arrogance--is rooted in insecurity about them.

Understand your limitations. No matter how talented you are, there is almost always somebody who can do something better than you can. Even if you are the best in the world at doing one thing, there are other things--important, worthwhile things--that you cannot do, and you may never be able to do some of these things. Add to this the fact that there are a great many things that no person can do, and you can get some idea of your limitations. Recognizing your limitations does not mean abandoning your dreams, and it doesn't mean giving up on learning new things or improving your existing abilities. It does mean coming to terms with the very real limits of your abilities.

Recognize your own faults. We judge others because it's a lot easier than looking at our own faults. Unfortunately, it's also completely unproductive and, in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationships, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves. We make judgments about others all the time, and we often don't even realize it. As a practical exercise, try to catch yourself in the act of judging another person or group of people, and whenever you do, judge yourself instead and consider how you could improve yourself.

Stop comparing. Why? Because, it's just about impossible to be humble when we're striving to be the "best" or trying to be "better" than others. Instead, try describing things more objectively. Rather than saying that so and so is the best guitarist ever, say what exactly it is that you appreciate about his skills, or simply say that you like his playing style. Let go of meaningless, simplistic comparisons, and you'll be able to enjoy doing things without worrying about whether you're better or worse at them than others.

Don't be afraid to defer to others' judgment. It's easy to acknowledge that you make mistakes and that you're not always right. Somewhat more difficult however, is the ability to acknowledge that in many cases other people--even people who disagree with you--may be right. Deferring to your spouse's wishes, to a law you don't agree with, or even, sometimes, to your child's opinion takes your recognition of your limitations to a different level. Instead of simply saying that you know that you're fallible, you take action based on that fact. Of course, if you know that a particular course of action is wrong, you shouldn't follow it. On closer inspection, though, you may realize that you don't actually know this as often as you think you do.

Treat other people as equals and help them because it is the right thing to do. It's been said that when you can help others who cannot possibly help you in return, you have learned humility.

Keep in mind that being humble has many benefits. Humility can help you be more content with your life, and it can also help you endure bad times and improve your relationships with others.

Warning Pretending to be humble isn't the same as being humble, and often people who pretend to be humble do it in order to seek out praise. Other people will recognize this, and even if you fool some, you won't derive the same benefits as you would through actually developing humility.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Spirit to serve

It is usually thought of as an additional burden to think of serving others. The usual thought is to think of first serving oneself and when one is content to think of serving others. But this thought makes one miss out on the fact that both service to oneself and service to others are complementary to each other, one helping the other in a positive way.

When we take on the responsibility of bringing benefit to others, i.e., when we consider ourselves as a humble server we will be free from wasteful and negative thinking. We will not waste our thoughts and energy on something that is not worthwhile, something that is not going to bring benefit to anyone. So each thought, word and action of ours becomes elevated.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

Why I blog

Why I blog...

To become free from tension, depression, frustration
To get peace of mind.
To get spiritual knowledge.
To become free from sorrow of death of dear one.
To read inspiring thought for the day...
To hear a Divine Song of the Day...
To make my personality more life effective through virtues...

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

So many masks

Sometimes in life we wear so many masks that it becomes difficult to see your true self.

When we come into contact with others, it is easy to see their negativity or weaknesses. Then through our words and attitude, we repeatedly remind them of their weaknesses. So we tend to become a reminder for others for their own negativity. This in turn negatively influences our every interaction with others.

Making others aware of their strengths and encouraging them to use these specialities is a great help that I can do for others. When I am able to give this unique help and cooperation, I not only find benefit for others, but also for myself.

Peace is not a passive attitude; it is an active state. It requires having constant attention and determination, in order to live and to respond as a peaceful being to any upset in life. You need to brave and vigilant.

Monday, June 9, 2008

Whatsoever you do

Remember one thing: meditation means awareness.
Whatsoever you do with awareness is meditation.
Action is not the question, but the quality that you bring to your action.
Walking can be a meditation if you walk alertly.
Sitting can be a meditation if you sit alertly.
Listening to the birds can be a meditation if you listen with awareness.
Just listening to the inner noise of your mind can be a meditation
if you remain alert and watchful.
The whole point is: one should not move in sleep.
Then whatsoever you do is meditation.


Sunday, June 8, 2008

I will

When we have an aim in our life and are working for it, we sometimes are not able to bring into practice all that we plan to do. We then tend to become disheartened and give up after trying for some time. Thus we lose out on the benefit that our thoughts can bring in our life.

In order to put into practice the good thoughts we need to stamp it with determination. Our words should never be 'I'll try', but must always be 'I will'. Where there is determination there is victory.

Saturday, June 7, 2008

Beat of a different Drum

I received this in email today. Please enjoy.

You cannot continue to beat the drum of things that don't feel good when you beat them—without filling your future experience full of things that don't feel good. At some point, there's going to be a tipping point that's going to become a manifestation.

Excerpted from Abraham-Hicks Publications

Friday, June 6, 2008

Change your focus

When we are faced with any weakness of ours, we usually think about it so much that it is totally blown out of proportion and it seems bigger than it actually is. This leads to negative thinking, which in turn doesn't let us work on improving ourselves. Some will then just remain the way they are, not being able to bring about progress or change.

What we need to do in order to win over our weakness is to change our focus. Instead of thinking about the weakness, we only need to think, "I am not where I want to be yet, but I am working towards it and I am slowly improving." Change will come with positive affirmations rather than complaints.

Thursday, June 5, 2008

Raw Video: Hartford Hit and Run - HORRIBLE!

Police in Hartford, Conn. are looking for the unidentified driver who struck down an elderly man in broad daylight May 30 on a busy downtown street. Angel Arce Torres, 78, was paralyzed after being run over by a dark Honda that was chasing a tan Toyota.

Self-respect increases when one learns to converse positively

The usual way to talk to the self is to talk to the most superficial aspects of the personality, those which are related to fears (including those of the future), complaints and mindless repetition of things in the past. Such talk to the self only lowers the self-respect to a great extent.

Not only when our mind is going towards waste and negative, but at all times, it is important that we talk to the mind with love, as we would talk to our children. Like a mother would lovingly explain to the child, we need to teach our mind with love. This creates true happiness within and our self-respect increases.

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Busy day today! Enjoy!

I was looking for insprirational videos today, however I needed something with a little more Kip, I mean PEP.

Winger Seventeen lyrics

I saw sparks fly
From the corner of my eye
And when I turned (whoo)
It was love at first sight
I said please excuse me
I didn't catch you name (whoa)
It'd be a shame
Not to see you again

And just when I thought
She was coming to my door
She whispered sweet
And brought me to the floor
She said

I'm only seventeen (seventeen)
I'll show you love like you've never seen
She's only seventeen (seventeen)
Daddy says she's too young
But she's old enough for me

Come to my place
We can talk it over (oh)
Everything going down in your head
She said take it easy
I need some time
Time to work it out
To make you mine

And just when I thought
She was coming to my door
She whispered sweet
And brought me to the floor
She said,

I'm only seventeen (seventeen)
You ain't seen love
Ain't seen nothing like me
She's only seventeen


Such a bad girl
Loves to work me over time
Feels good (ha)
Dancin' close to the borderline
She's a magic mountain
She's a leather glove (oh)
She's my soul
It must be love

She's only seventeen (seventeen)
The girl she gives me love like I've never seen
She's only seventeen (seventeen)
Daddy says she's too young
But she's old enough for me
She's everything I need (seventeen)
Daddy says she's too young
But she's old enough
Old enough for me
Yeah! Yeah!!

Tuesday, June 3, 2008

Earn Respect, climb the ranks

Respect is usually associated with what one does. When there is an attitude, there is a tendency for people to view you in a superficial way, missing out on recognizing your true worth.

We need to recognize the fact that true respect comes from doing well whatever is being done. We need to recognize each one's virtues and qualities revealed through the behavior. This enables us to have true respect for others. And for others to have respect for our work.

Monday, June 2, 2008

Sweetness of the mind

There is an understanding of the need for being sweet in words and interactions. But this sweetness can be expressed only when there is sweetness in the mind. Sweetness of the mind means there is not even a trace of negativity. Such a mind is further open to all that is nice and beautiful and expresses its own freshness and beauty in

When I am able to keep my mind sweet, free from any kind of bitterness or ill-feelings, I am able to experience the beauty of life. There is no feeling of sorrow or negativity but the mind is nurtured to further positivity with everything that comes its way. I am then able to experience constant growth and progress.

Sunday, June 1, 2008

Flying high has little value if you never come back to earth

Be free without being reckless. Be generous without being naive. Be smart without being conceited. Be strong without being a bully. Be confident without being arrogant. Be courageous while also being careful.

Go far without going over the edge. Achieve, but not to the point of hopeless obsession. Even the best things can become a burden when you get too much of them.

Even the fastest car has a good brake system. Even on the highest flying aircraft are wheels with which to land.